I am 14. Me and my parents go through some really rough times with eachother. But this time it was huge. My parents both work..and my two little brothers are starting school. Well my mom and dad kept giving me a hard time telling me they didn't know if they could trust me home alone all day from 6am-6pm. I am usually very responsible. I am homeschooled, and I usually go to the high school across the street after it is out of session. Well my mom kept telling me she was gonna make me go to work with her everyday. And it is really upsetting me. So wednesday I snuck out of the house for an hour. It was to the high school to watch football. And then I was up on the phone till' 12:00 am. But I got right off. My mom and dad were really mad about it. So the next day I worked really hard to make up for it. But then my dad came home yelling at me saying i was grounded. And he went up to the high school for my brothers wrestling. I snuck up there also. =[ well I got caught.
2007-08-17 01:09:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I was just talking to my crush. And my dad comes in yelling at me. So then when we got home my mom and dad told me to pack my stuff and that they are going to do something with me. They are taking away my room. And they have no trust for me ever again!! I feel like crying. I cut my wrists 11x's last week. And last night 3. Then when they told me that I was grounded. I walked out of the house again. To my friends house right next door. they didn't know that though. So they went to my crush/bestfriends and went looking for me. I finally came home and they were mad at me not worried. IDK what I can do to make things better! I really love my family. And they said that I can't do anything anymore. I am actually a really good kid but they pulled the last straw from me and I obviously did the same. =[ can anyone help me????? PLZ?!?!
2007-08-17 01:13:07 · update #1
14 is a hard age. When you are 25 you will understand your mom and dad a little better. Trust is earned and you are not earning that trust by "sneaking" out and certainly not by cutting your wrists. Just go with the flow. Do what you know is right (listen to your parents) they don't tell you things to hurt you; they are trying to protect you. Just be glad you have loving parents. Earn their trust by doing right--someday you will have children of your own and you will understand. It won't be long before you are out on your own. Then you will really realize how hard life can be. Your mom and dad are trying to help you; not hurt you. Please try to understand that.
2007-08-17 01:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by isc_cooper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to earn your parents trust back. There is no reason for you to have snuck out in the first place. If you said you were responsible, you should have known better. Now, you are in BIG trouble. Try moving back in with your parents, maybe while they are at work, then do the dishes, vaccum, ect. That may start you on the right track to being trusted again.
2007-08-17 02:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you don't do things by huffs hay :)
OK trust is something that take a lot of time and sucking up!! do the right thing for the next 2 years and you should have it back.
stop cutting yourself that is just dangerous to be doing on the wrists find a safer place then there! (i know that is not a good thing to say but if your going to do it at lest do it where it is less likely to kill you) this is another reason i would not wont to leave you at home on your own.. i would not wont to come home as a parent and find my child in a pool of blood!!
get counseling for your self harming and try and get your mom and dad in it too it can only help things
2007-08-17 01:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, i'm 15 and sneaking out just made the situation worse, because your parents already don't trust you at home by yourself, soo now u gave them a reason not to trust u by yourself, and the phone thing it's no big deal everybody gets yelled at for staying on the phone to long.
2007-08-17 02:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by siara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! 14 is a crappy ages isn't it? You feel like you are mature enough to have responsabilities but your parents still see you as a little girl..don't worry with each passing year you will get more freedom.
You must stop cutting yourself. I know you are not wanting attention as some people may think. It is a serious issue. Try talking to someone about it- family, friend, trusted adult etc.
If you feel you can't talk to your parents try writing them a note telling them your concerns. Good luck!!
2007-08-17 01:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off stop getting cought....lol jk its such a touchy subject cause your parents only care for you and want you to be safe, and they dont know if you are if they are not with you every sec. sad to say but i wasnt able to stay home alone untill after i was out of high schoo.... : ( but the only thing you can do is talk to your parents, your gona need to gain there trust and when you get it dont screw up! if you ever get a chance to stay home from 6-6 make a phone call let them know what your doing.... i know sounds lame but its the only thing that you can do to get them to trust you they will give in. OK I JUST READ THE LAST PART AND START BY STOP CUTTING YOURSELF THATS STUPID AND IF YOU LOVE YOUR FAMILY YOU WOULD STOP CUTTING YOURSELF SEEMS LIKE YOU JUST WANT ATTENTION FROM THEM. AND FINE BUT HURTING YOURSELF WONT GET THE ATTENTION YOU WANT FROM YOUR PARENTS
2007-08-17 01:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you homeschooled when your parents work all day shouldnt they be helping you with school? Im not being sarcastic Im sad for you maybe if they are so worried you should be placed in school (public or private) where you wont be left alone all day! Sweetie you are to young to be alone that much and your parents should know that ask them if you could sign up for school with your brothers then you could see your friends at school and it will be easier to obey your parents at night!
2007-08-17 01:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing things to yourself that would scare any parent. You're staying up way too late, disobeying family rules and most importantly, hurting yourself. If I were your parent, I would seek professional advice and counseling. It's obvious all of you need family counseling to solve these problems; we can't help you at a distance. You haven't mentioned why you're being home-schooled. Had you been acting up in school? In any case, maybe you can suggest family counseling for all of you. If this goes on, I fear it will get much worse. Good luck to all of you.
2007-08-17 01:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok, everybody on here needs to stop with your parents care about you bullshit. yea maybe they do, well i know they do, but thats not what its about. they can care about you and still be dead wrong. first off you need to stop the cutting. get help. if your parents really know about this they should be getting you help, but if they don't you need to get yourself help. nobody want you to hurt yourself. or worse. are you not aloud out of the house? i really don't understand that part of your situation. umm my best advice is either don't sneak out or don't get caught. maybe you should try asking them, if they say no, then you got to do what you got to do.
but most important is to stop cutting yourself.
2007-08-17 04:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, everyone one goes through these problems, your growing up and your parents are just worried, sure there been really over-protective. but sit down and talk to them, tell them how there making you feel, how there suffocating you. be calm and dont lose your temper, remember, a person who shout is a person who has lost control, you lose control and its over. hope everything works out for you
2007-08-17 01:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋