I hate the doctor!?

Question

i have decided to go to my hospital for only the fact that its down the street from me : ( my pregnancy has been great no problem... today is my edd and i have yet to get checked to see if the baby is ok i have a appt to induce already 23rd. i just think its odd that they would set a appt without checking to see if iam dialated, amnio fluid...ect. the doctor has just been way too imprersonal, today i have a doctor appt. and i want then to check on the baby ultra sound, manualy something. what questions should i be asking my doctor. my first baby and have been doing a lot of reading up on everything. I just want to be on top of everything.

So far i am feeling fine, no fakey contractions, baby moving regularly, ooh the only thing is feet are way SWOLLEN they hurt.....if you dont have any idea dont answer thanks!

Answer 1

You should have a doctor that you are comfortable with. You don't want one that leaves you out of the loop. , I wouldn't go changing now since you are past your due date. Just keep it in mind for future pregnancies. At your ultrasound, I would ask them to do a biophysical profile, ask them how your baby scored, a weight check (really just an educated guess on their part), whether it is practicing breathing, amniotic fluid levels, have them check your cervix, station of the baby, size of your uterus, the fetal heart rate, and generally everything else that you are worried about. Of course, they will check this anyway, but ask them so that they give you an answer. Some doctors just don't tell you something if it ends up being a good thing. They just tell you when there is a problem. So you can assumet that no news is good news.

Answer 2

I'm not sure -- isn't there another Dr at the practice you can see if you don't like the one you've been seeing? Or another practice at the hospital? And why haven't you changed Drs if you don't like him or her?

If your Dr is impersonal and doesn't seem to really care about you, then it makes perfect sense that he'd set an induction date without knowing anything. Because - he doesn't care...just wants you to deliver so he can collect the money from the insurance company (or you).

If your feet are swollen, I'd think he should be double checking you with blood work to ensure you're not becoming pre-eclamptic. I had blood work every week the last 6 weeks of my pregnancy due to the feet swelling and higher blood pressure. If all else fails, you could "invent" some symptoms and head to labor & delivery after hours and they'll hook you up to the monitors and check you out to be sure all is ok :-) Not that I advocate lying...mind you. Just an option....

Answer 3

It's obvious there's bad karma between you and your doctor. However, the medical care in a hospital will be even more impersonal. Can you find another ob/gyn? If not, you should be asking the questions you've indicated here: 1) Why haven't I been checked to determine the health of my baby? 2) How can an appointment for induction of labor be set without checking if I am dilated? Why haven't I had an ultrasound? Even though I feel okay, why is my own health being taken so for granted? Write the questions down before your appointment so you won't forget them. Good luck.

Answer 4

the only thing you can do about your feet at this point is get the surgical socks or support hose and wear them when you are at home and keep your feet up that will help a lot, I suggest putting them on after you get home from wherever you go if you dont want to wear them out in public, my feet stayed swollen even after I delivered and it felt as though I were stepping in a pool when I walked I could literally feel the water in my ankles it was gross but the hose helped, and so did ice packs and elevating them, stay away from heating pads that will make them worse, heat inflames them more and makes them swell more, so ice and hose and elevate, also mention to a nurse that you want your cervix checked for signs of dialation and dont leave till they do, sometimes the checking of the cervix will help your body kind of get the hint, and also sex, I know it sounds bad but the night before I went into labor all 3 times I made love to my husband and he was gentle, you dont want to go at it like a banchee but the penetration helped because all 3 times the following day I was ready to head to the delivery room!!! I am fixed now and cant have any more but that trick worked for me, good luck and take care!

Answer 5

I understand how you feel here:

My advice: Be firm with your caregiver. He/She is there to help you along the way to this miracle of birthing. Not to make you even more frustrated... (this is why many of us spend weeks finding a suitable OB... they're getting hard to come by nowadays...)

As far as being impersonal, that's a part of their personality. Not a whole lot you can do there. But as far as jumping the gun on inducing and things of that nature- that's unethical. You know, we have so many more inductions and scheduled cesareans nowadays, and it's sad really- there are so many more risks involved when you interfere with this natural process. True, sometimes it's medically neccessary, but many times it's done for convienence- either for the mother or the doctor. And that's wrong.

With induction comes higher risks for infection, trauma to the baby, medical complications for mom (including high blood pressure) and may result in them having to break your water, and then perhaps even having to use "other methods" to get the baby out when labor has started. Pitocin is usually used to induce, and, from my experience as well as many many others, it makes your contractions much more intense, increasing the likely hood of needing an epidural (there goes even more risks...) or other pain management methods. Plus, your baby may not be ready to come out just yet... he/she likes it in there, you know... :) (and as long as you don't go past 42-43 weeks, it's perfectly normal)

I suggest that today you speak up and tell the doctor YOUR wishes, and ask questions as to why he/she is making the decisions that he/she is making, and based on what medical neccessity. If you're worried about being rude, don't even let that cross your mind. You're pregnant, and you have a lot at stake here. Plus, you can always blame it on horomones later... :)

Good luck to you!

Answer 6

Your doctor should have been checking you every week starting with the 36th week. Ask him/her about your dilation and effacement progress. Babies rarely come on their exact edd. It does happen but it's not likely. You can go up to 2 weeks past your edd before you go into labor, but its safer to be induced before then because the placenta starts to deteriorate and the baby lacks nutrition. I have 2 children and they were both born 5 days past their edd. If the baby is still moving actively then chances are it's healthy. I know the last days seem like forever and it's frustrating, but just get as much rest as you can before you have your little bundle of joy. He or she will come when the time is right.

Answer 7

I suggest getting female doctors. I don't know if it's too late to fire the guy you have now, but he is either calloused, socially backwards or overworked. Having a baby is a wonderful thing, and although to Drs it just 'another day on the job', you shouldn't let some butthead tarnish the experience for you.

Good luck and God Bless the new Mother.

Answer 8

So what's your question ?????????????
Or did you just need to vent your worries
Good luck anyhow !