sister's abusive boyfriend...?

Question

i'm very worried about my 15 y/o sister being with her boyfriend boyfriend, he has been an alcoholic since he was 14( he's 17), he constantly tells her that she would be nothing without him and that no guy would ever want her, he also forces her to pay for everything he thinks we're "rich', he is also a racist and wants her to join the kkk with him, she admitted to me that he pressured her into having sex numerous times, but she begged me not to tell our parents yet because she's "ashamed" and can't tell them yet, i know i need to stop this freak from hurting my sister but we have a very strong bond and i don't wanna betray her trust

Answer 1

You should talk to your sister about leaving him.
Nobody should have to deal with that. He's only using her.
She deserves better than that, she's young and having her dignity stolen from her.

I understand how you feel as it being your sister.
But if you really cared, you'd get him out of her life.

But if you feel that he might physically hurt you or her, Contact the police. What he's doing is wrong. Basically, Him pressuring her into having sex is statutory rape which is illegal. And with him being so close to 18, He could face charges.

I really hope it works out.
And good luck.
Email me if you'd like to talk.

Answer 2

Tell her the possible outcomes of what might happen if she were to stay in the relationship.

Bring up all this dude's bad qualities, and ask her what are his good ones.

If needed, threaten her by telling her you will stop talking to her if she doesn't stop talking to him, i'm certain she loves you mroe than him =)

if nothing works, i would go to your parents about it and explain to them that you didn't want to betray her trust, you just want what is best for her.

how did she get into the relationship? whatever the reason, she has to get out quick. this guy will be the death of himself and her.

Would you rather have a broken trust bond between you and her, or have her buried 6 feet under?

Answer 3

Your sisters safety is very important!!!!!!!!!!! Please, please tell your parents what is going on. They need to create a paper trail so that they can possibly file charges against the boyfriend!!!!!!!!!! They need to know EXACTLY HOW THIS BOY IS TREATING THEIR DAUGHTER.
Your sister needs to get away from this so-called "boyfriend" as soon as possible, if not sooner. Even if she has to live out of state with relative, at least she would hopefully be out of his reach.
Don't mean to scare you, but I have a friend who's daughter was in an abusive relationship too. He was manipulating her, telling her kind of the same things, etc. As it ended up, he broke into their house, grabbed her out of the shower, and went into her room and shot her in the head. She died in her room, in her own home.
The only good thing he did was to commit suicide!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

I think you should get a male relative or friend to kick his a.s.s.
or you can drive him to the middle of the hood and watch him get his a.s.s beat

after that you should offer her love and support and suggest she seek therapy or talk to a clergy member and try to get her help.

If all else fails tell her parents and exercise tough love.

Answer 5

I think you should do something that would help her secretly.......you should ask someone to help you about your plan......if you really love your sister,you need to do the right thing even if it hurts......if possible, you need to say that problem to your parents before it's too late...

Answer 6

I think in this case, you're going to have to. She's in serious danger, and he's managed to trap her emotionally. You have to do something before the situation escalates.