Me and my mom have not had a good relationship in years. It doesn't matter what it is, the littlest things and we get so mad at each other. I always feel that my mom is trying to get me upset. I feel like she likes drama, could this be true? If so, what should I do? I want her in my life, but I'm tired of fighting. We've talked about our behavior and made agreements on how we would talk to one another, but it always feels like when I'm trying to have a civil conversation, she does something to make it a hostile argument.
Need real honest opinions/suggestions, please!
2007-08-16 20:04:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have the same situation with my mom. Just tell her how you feel about your mom and daughter relationship. That the arguing is very unhealthy for you and her to do. Tell her you do not like drama in your life. If she want to have a conversation with you tell her I do not want your drama brought into the this conversation. Tell her you will not talk to her if she is being a drama queen. Sounds like she wants control over conversation she gets mad about it. My mom it has to be about her or focuses on my life and not her life. My mom also compares to my brothers it makes me madder than hell at her.
2007-08-16 20:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by nikki_lav_2288 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are really hard when you live with someone, even parents. I'm assuming that you still live at home. In many cases, when you reach a certain age, you sort of go into Competition Mode with your same sex parent. Both women sort of compete to be the women of the house, and this is purely unintentional.
I'm 36 and don't get along well with my mother. Our conversations are usually very short but nothing bad is really ever said. When she says something that hurts me, I just have to know that she's not saying it to hurt me (or at least I hope she's not!) and walk away. That's the beauty of not living with my parents. I just say, "I gotta go," and then leave all angry thoughts at their doorstep.
Things have always been tense between me and Mom, but when I tried to confront her about it, she got all upset and wondered why I was being so mean to her...which I wasn't, I was trying to find a solution! Oh well. Wishing you and your Mom better luck! :-)
2007-08-17 03:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mother and i had so many problems that she took me to counseling and even went to the extent of some police program for troubled kids. I am now a mother and realize exactly why she was the way she was. A mother just wants what is best for her kids. She will give advice and if you don't take it she gets mad. I can now say that my mom was always right. I now see the mistakes she made bringing me up. We laugh about all the fights we got in as i was growing up. I can honestly say she is my best friend.
2007-08-17 03:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by stephie poo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW this sounds like my mom. but my relationship with my mom is ok, it could be better. when i was younger i was in your EXACT position we couldn't watch T.V. together without fighting. (still happens but not as often) but we started doing things together like going to the gym or shopping. it really helped us bond and be closer. &you know what i've noticed no matter how much shes screaming at you &how upset you get keep your tone & voice low and without realizing it she'll be talking to you normally as well, don't scream bac it makes it worse. . . hope this helps =)
2007-08-17 03:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took me years but I learned to let it all go and now we are best friends and the funny thing is my Mom loves our relationship, she always says she wish she had this kind of relationship with her mom but it never happend. Don't get mad just let it go.
2007-08-17 03:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by Dragon Lady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mom sounds like my dad..
we just recently (like 6 months ago) began being able to bear each other.
all i did was go with him so hes always right and im always wrong and have more conversations with him..it took a while but he started becoming more friendly with me and listening to my perspectives on things.
2007-08-17 03:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by 412envy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's almost exactly how my relationship with my mom is . . it sucks, we agrued all this week. eventually I'm just gonna put her out of my life for good if this continues . . . sorry I have no possitive things or opinions to say =/
2007-08-17 03:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by the questioner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the best child in the world
2007-08-17 03:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a good relationship with my Mom, it's guarded---I tell her what I want her to know and what I want to deal with her judgments. it works for me.
2007-08-17 03:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her ok.. i hear you on this one.. but leave the rest in the air
2007-08-17 03:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by vis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋