I meet this woman on-line. I needed to improve my portfolio and she volunteered to sit. Anyways I've never meet someone so open before in my life. She was soft spoken and nice. But after a few drawing sessions I found out that she had been abused by a guy in a past relationship. She was afraid to just call and talk to someone on a 1800 number. She did get out of it and is safe and fine.
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2007-08-16 19:13:18 · 3 answers · asked by Jackel 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Anyways I really don't know what happened or what I did wrong. I'm not sure but I mite have seen her at work in my retail job. Her or someone that looks just like her with a hair cut (She had said several times that she wouldn't cut her hair) came into my line but this person had a coupon and it wasn't her name so with the haircut and coupon I didn't think it was her. So I rang her up and then she ask for a tissue. So I don't know if it was that or when I was in the car with her when she was dropping me off to my parking spot and I said I have anxiety.
To be honest I didn't care if I had a relationship with this woman or we were just friends. I didn't want to disrespect her and make a move on her. She was nice enough to help me out. I did promise her a color drawing and still plan on finishing that sometime. Any recommendations would be helpful. I just want her to be happy, safe and well. I just like to listen also.
2007-08-16 19:20:56 · update #1
Sorry, I am not a professional you were looking for. I was a woman you are referring to 21 years ago. There are serious emotional complications left as an aftermath of the abuse. As time goes by, she will go through different stages of recovery: pain, anger, indifference and withdrawal and then recovery. It takes all the strength of character she posses to get over it. She also needs professional help. She is very fragile emotionally right now it seems. Depending on what kind of abuse she went through, there might be different complications to her recovery and future relationships she might have. Trust issues, sexual dysfunction, low self esteem are only some of them. As you can tell, situation isn't as simple as it seems. But if she is a strong individual and if she has someone to give her support, she just might recover one day. I did.
2007-08-16 19:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I will make it clear that I'm not a "psychologist" yet. I'm in school to become one. But I can tell you this, this woman has been through a lot and you would be wise to take it slow in developing your relationship with her. When women are abused in anyway they aften develope very complex trust issues(they set up many walls or they have no walls at all). Stay in contact with her, hang out casually, and develop a healthy friendship with her. As time goes on her trust and comfort with you will be closer to a healthy level, and you will feel if it is right for you to pursue an intimate relationship with her. If you want to make her happy you need to be sensative to her needs above yours in your relationship with her. If you take things to fast she may develop more complexes in her trust.
2007-08-16 19:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
iI mean no insult, but it is difficult to resolve your question/story with your username of Jackel.
2007-08-16 19:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋