hi.. i havent seen or heard from my ex boyfriend in 2 months...last night i went to some lounge by me with my friend and i saw my ex kissing some girl...im not going to lie, even though i moved on, it did bother me a bit...after he hooked up with her he was by the bar by himself so i went up to him and said hi and we started talking...after that i saw some guy who i knew and we started talking (thats all, i didnt hook up with him or anything)...i saw my ex staring at us that he even came up to me while i was talking to the other guy...after that i walked out with my friend and that guy and his friend and i kno my ex saw it bc he tried getting my attention..then he calls me and leaves a message on my voicemail saying "i want you" but ur with another guy".. i get a call from him the next day apologizing to me if he said anything bad the night before cause he was drunk. then he asked me how i been? and what ive been up to? i mean seriously what does he want from me??
2007-08-16 17:39:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He doesn't really want you; he just doesn't want to see you with someone else. If he hadn't seen you with that other guy, he wouldn't have given you another thought after you left. Very typical reaction on the part of a guy, although it's common in women, too. But with guys, it's more of a territorial thing than about love.
2007-08-16 17:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Riven Liether 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be with you out of jealousy things are going to get really uninteresting really quick. I wouldn't call this a healthy relationship. And you gotta think, what happened to the girl your ex was kissing.. If he dumped her like that (IF he dumped her like that) just how reliable is he?
The most important thing is that you know much more about the matter at hand than anyone here, and you should go with your OWN decision, which can only be weighed or helped by ours if you realize that ours wasn't subject to the full experience that yours was.
2007-08-17 00:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Maziar S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the old saying applies here. A drunk mans words are a sober man's minds. He wants you, but he may not be ready to settle down- he has feelings, but they are complicated in his sober state by other concerns. He does want you, but likely, he can't actually handle you. Seeing you with another guy brought out his jealous and competitive streak, further enhancing his feelings towards you.
Pretty normal stuff really :)
2007-08-17 00:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Way 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like everyone who answered missed the fact that you went up to him.
Then the question, is what do you want from him?
It would have been interesting to have been there, and to have read you body language.
Please do not take this as a insult, it not intended that way, just an observation of "human behavior".
2007-08-17 01:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by All-One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it's not often i get to answer a question for someone who already has some sense. It's basically jealousy. He wants from you what any other ex-anything wants. What he had before.
2007-08-17 00:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by raidendavis 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may play around him for some time ,till you are able to sort out your own thoughts.In the long run,he is a gone case.Take care of yourself.
2007-08-17 00:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, because he 'was drunk'. famous last excuse, give me a break, I've heard it all from all the losers
you ever hear the saying, if it begins in a bar, it ends in a bar?
well, that was your chance to end it in the bar, good riddance to bad rubbish!
2007-08-17 00:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey,sounds like you caught him trying to get away with some strange. then the estrainged,took off leaving him without either one of you .plus, if this happened in a bar ,his emotional state was probebly exageated.
2007-08-17 00:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he is guilty since he was kissing some girl..... so he may want to apologise . he likes to have ur relationship , either as a friend or as a lover..... but i dont mean in a wrong way.
2007-08-17 00:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by dryden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably lonely or looking to get some. i would stay away from him and not answer his phone calls. you would only be encouraging him. you want to move on right?
2007-08-17 00:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by kosarsosar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋