Do you think that is more polite to push them away or give them false hope because you're a nice person?
2007-08-16 17:04:55 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Most of my life I followed the "polite" version. Often the push away/false hope action has only made it a lose-lose situation and given the circumstances or the personalities of the people involved the end result is always messy.
I truly believe at this point in my life, if I know someone well enough to preconceive the response I will get when addressing any perspective of being "used" by the individual. It is safer to lie and give them a reason they can accept and live with so I can just move on and move out of the uncomfortable situation with that person. The old adage of "honesty is the best policy" or "kill them with kindness" just doesn't fit in society these days. Simpler days are gone forever. Besides, take into consideration that if someone is "using" you, chances are they are a "serial user" which makes it an actual lifestyle for them. Meaning they know every angle to use and there is no win-win with a person like this. Generally speaking it always helps if you have something to hold over the person's head as collateral just for covering your own behind. Look at who the heck you're dealing with! Be the wiser and a step ahead. Don't feel bad for doing whatever you have to do to protect yourself! I usually can spot this type of person a mile away, give everyone the benefit of the doubt once and then it's time to put into perspective what is best for me.
2007-08-16 17:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are using u push them away, but in my case i cant i still want to be friends but everyone of them have used me. I can t be alone.
Dont give anyone false hope, it hurts too much
2007-08-17 00:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by cassies_graphics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in being blunt in relationships... it has not worked quite very well in so far as the relationships are concerned, but it has always let me be at peace with myself.
2007-08-17 00:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by small 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on what they're using me for, whether I was benefiting from it in any way, and whether my being used was voluntary or coerced.
2007-08-17 01:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by R[̲̅ə̲̅٨̲̅٥̲̅٦̲̅]ution 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋