What is the real secret?

Question

How do you really find the kind of person that you know you want, and how can you explore your options to the best possibilites? It's hard for me to find someone. I'm a deep person and i like to know someone deeply. It takes time and effort on both sides to accomplish that. I like to have an idea of what their thinking and what they want to say. How do i find those guys to choose from? For me right now, it's like looking for a needle in a haystack. How can i better reverse that analogy? How (and maybe, where) can i find the type of relationships i want in more encouraging numbers?

Answer 1

Requinize what your up againt frist. Your starting to see the fact is that our society (due mostly to the purpose it gives the individuals in it) isn't setup for deep thinkers. Being a deep thinker doesn't help you go thru the motions this society has thrown in front of us, its actually "better" to be shallow, closed minded, and selfish, as oppose to being deep, opened-minded or selfless, its just the way the whole "prusuit of happiness" thing works, its a cope out, its an impossiblity. If you can't be happy standing still your diffently not going to be happy movin and stressin. So this lends people insecure and frustrated so their more likly to take any path thats comfromity for at the very least, its the path they've been taught. Ether way a good place would be volunter workgroups, like red-cross, or big bro/sis, to find someone who acutal thinks enough to be able to keep up with you. Me personally love intense, deep, meaningful conversation, so even those who "think" there up to it get blown off, so I tend to stay away from most of the social organization out there, and just be glad to find someone who is willing to listen and feel me, better yet answer back with there own wisdom. But to shorten it up, your in the same boat as me, mostly screwed, becasue theres just nothing to gain in society for someone like that. I don't do it for the social requinition, I do it because no one else is willing to, which makes me an enigma..... but to be able to find enough individuals to choose? Asking to much, hunnie;-), but heck if you can figure a better way let me know, lucky the numbers are in our favor to find someone whose at the least willing to tolerate our overthinking, which I'd be glad for right now.