i wouldnt say im shy but im a quiet person.im going to be a sophmore in highschool and i want to be more talkative. when im w/ a group of people that are having a conversation i just dont know what to say.any help please?!
2007-08-16 15:21:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Get a job in retail. You'll earn extra cash and HAVE to talk to people. You'll get used to it!
2007-08-16 15:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by Surf Forever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a great question. Im gonna b in 11th grade and i am very shy and i have always been. I think that once i get out of high school and i am around new people, i'll open up more and try to be more social. To me, i dont talk that much because i have always been shy and i am afraid of how people will react if i start talking a lot. Im fine when im around people i know. Im really loud and goofy around my friends but at school i dont say a word. However, if people talk to me then i will open up and talk to them. Theres this boy that i didnt even know who is friends with my brother and my best friends brother. When i first met him i was really shy and i dont think i said anything. Now, i talk and yell around him and to him and joke around. Me, my best friend, my bro, her bro, and the boy all hang out with eachother and act goofy and do weird stuff. So you just gotta get to know people and then when you know them and your in a group, you'll feel more comfortable talking to everyone. I hope i helped since its coming from me, a shy person. <3
2007-08-16 22:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by »cottoncandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did, was I "pretended" a lot, until I grew comfortable with the role of being sociable.
I wasn't comfortable just walking up and talking to people, so I "pretended" that I was one of those gabby, bold people who just walked up and have no fear.
Also, before "pretending," get out a pen and a piece of paper. List the worst, WORST! things that COULD happen, if you were to just walk up to a group of people to join in their conversation. After all, part of shyness is fear and self-consciousness. After listing all the possibilities, list ways to handle each worst problem, should it arise.
That way, when you go sauntering up to a group of people, you can feel confident that you can handle the worst outcome, so therefore, you can also handle anything less than "worst."
I did this all through college, my early teaching career, and in many different adventures all along the way to now. Eventually, I was comfortable enough with myself and the rest of the world, that I no longer had to pretend...
I still am a quiet person... more comfortable alone than in a crowd... and I still have a bit of a shy streak. But I'm OK with that... I'm comfortable alone and also with people.
2007-08-16 22:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start conversate with people about current event avoid talking about religion. Am in college am still shy so u have time to change it if u want and get involve in school activity.
2007-08-16 22:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by clyde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im like that. But theres nothing wrong with either of us, its just our personalities.
but try to add stuff into the conversation, or try to start a new topic when everyone is mildly silent. Its easiest if u direct what you say to one person that you know best in particular and then once u are more involved in the conversation to voice yourself to everyone equally
2007-08-16 22:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by hoffster12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just naturally shy. there is nothing wrong with that unless you want to change it. And there might be a reason that you care shy such as you are self concious (like me). In which case you might just have to think "screw what other people think about me" speak your mind, it's never a bad idea
2007-08-16 22:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋