How could i stop crying?

Question

well everytime i get angry upset with what was said about me..or pissed off..i dont have the guts to say anything back i just start crying..and i feel bad because my bf should tello me what he thinks at the time..but hes to worried about getting me upset..how do i face this and start giving feedback...I dont Want to cry im 21 lol

Answer 1

I don't think there is an age limit on crying, no matter what anyone tells you. Emotions are emotions, you cannot avoid feeling them and to bottle them up usually causes problems later on. It's ok to cry. What you should do is to try to think about, and vocalize, why you are crying, rather than bottle it up or sit on it.

And once you have calmed down, you should also get your boyfriend to realize that crying is necessary for you to deal with overwhelming emotions, and make him understand that he needs to learn to communicate honestly and openly but positively, about his thoughts as well.

Not being open and honest is doing both of you a disservice. I think your relationship will be much better if you can both be honest about your emotions, your thoughts and feelings, and not have to hold back or bottle them up because of one another.

Answer 2

You know what.... I am kind of similar. I don't cry but I'm not really able to say anything back when I'm angry. I don't know what it is but I've always been like that. Then I feel so mad at myself that I didn't speak up.... that sounds like what happens to you but instead you cry? For me, I am trying to speak up even if its just a little bit so that I don't feel so annoyed with myself. Maybe that will help you?

Answer 3

Tell yourself it isnt worth it. Be confident with what you say. Know that what you say matters, and there isnt a reason to cry about it unless someone literally hurts you. (physically) You can move on, and think about where crying has gotten you. probably no where further than where you were before you started to cry. You have got to know that people will crticize you, and you have got to deal with it. You dont have to do what they say or fix anything, but you should keep your ears open and realize they are entitled to an opinion and shouldnt have to be weary of sharing it with you knowing you will cry. be confident.

Answer 4

when i get angry i cry too. it is one of the things i hate about myself but i have a little trick that works the majority of the time. if i know that i am going to be in a situation that is going to make me angry i always bring with me something to drink. a cup of water, a bottle of water, tea, whatever. when i feel that lump in my throat, you know, the one you get right before the tears fall. anyway, when you feel that in your throat take a drink and breathe. even if you're not drinking act like you are and breathe for like 10 seconds. it helps to relax me when i do it and it can relax you, too. the tears may come out but you will still be able to speak. hopefully it can help you.

Answer 5

i think you cry because you do not know how to react. you need to think about what is going on around you and think about it logically and than respond. try holding back the tears. it will take time to learn how to deal with things but you can do it.

Answer 6

Tell him your feelings even though you are crying. Sometimes we need some time to come back to talk about something tough for us when we would feel calmer.

Answer 7

Start by expressing your true feelings when you are not upset! So when you do become upset you won't feel uncomfortable. Remember...It is ok to cry! But please stand up for yourself!

good luck

Answer 8

it;s not good to bottle up yr feelings, so just open up..or if u still face the same, seek the help of a councillor...

Answer 9

YOu got PROblems, go to a doctor