No matter how many friends you had and how many people liked you as their friend, you just felt alone and thought you had no true friends and no one to turn to? I feel like that at times espicially right now, I just moved for my husbands job and it seems like only about 4 of my friends care to keep in touch. Thats not the only reason i feel like this, also my husband is ALWAYS working and alot of other problems I feel like i am going to lose it. What should i do? And what have you done when you have felt this way?
2007-08-16 14:43:28 · 22 answers · asked by sassy is sad 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I know exactly how you feel. I have a one year old daughter, and a husband, and loads of friends, who I meet up with fairly regularly, but I still feel like no-one really cares. I know they all do, but they all have there own lives to go and get on with. I think what it is with me, is that I really want people to want my help. Like, I want them to want my advice. Or I want them to need me to help them with something. At the moment, they all think Im so busy with my daughter, and the house, that they tend not to ask.
Perhaps you should remind them that you are there for them, and you'd love to help with things if they need your help. Tell them you want to keep in touch, and be honest, tell them you feel quite lonely. People will understand.
Maybe set up some extra day to day stuff at your new area you've moved to ... go join a club or something. I always thought mothers groups were stupid, but Im in one now, and it really is great to know youve got that to do, and that those people are in the same position as you are.
I bet youve got some old hobbies that you feel like youve left behind - why not get back into it?
You need to make your life about things you love, and while that may be your husband, you have to also realise that he loves you for the person you are, and he wants you to DO things, and live. He cant always be there, so you have to go and re-discover what makes you, you.
Also, you said there are four friends who are trying to keep in touch with you. Those are the friends you should want to keep, they are the ones that are sticking by you. They are the ones you can turn to. They are your true friends.
2007-08-16 15:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am feeling that way now. My daughter is 21 and has her own life. Which is normal. My husband is still working all the time, and never has time for me. Or so it seems. I was a stay at home mom and now I work at the school as an aide. Still feel lonely though. I am really lousy at meeting new people. Plus I am old and I just don't fit it. My coworkers are young and nice but we don't have anything really in common. And I just get more depressed.
I started bike riding by myself and walking. I figure its better then sitting home alone. I thought if I got a job I'd feel better but I really don't. I do enjoy the children though.
I hope you make new friends and things improve for you. Good Luck!
2007-08-16 14:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by ????? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hollywood Baby, Blue Moon are Beautiful and as long as i take my dog for a walk, i will not be alone or lost.. Sometimes companionship with you pet is way better than with a guy. Your dog will love you forever no matter what you do. Your Friend, poppy1
2016-05-20 18:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by katrina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, its like being in a crowded room with people you know and you still feel like you have nobody. I just moved not too long ago too so i know how that is. You can really tell who your true friends are at times like these. Try taking some time to relax and just remind yourself it will get better. thats what i always do and im still truckin.
2007-08-16 14:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is really really hard when you move away from your family and friends. the best thing to do is make new frinds where you are now, and keep in contact with the few friends who seem to give a crap. if you are not working, join a gym, or maybe do volunteer work-good ways to meet new people in your area
2007-08-16 14:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your friends are busy so can't always call you or visit you. So maybe you can call them or visit them initiatively.
For your husband, because he need to work and makes money, so you can't blame him. If you want, you can ask him to take out some time to accompany you, maybe on saturday or sunday ask him date with you.
For me, if i felt this way, i may listen some song then playing games. If can, i'll find my friend comes out and tell them about my problem...
Anyway, please be happy.
2007-08-16 14:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by scottcky1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way alot. Especially since i move every year. I really wanna stay in one place for high school =(
2007-08-16 14:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by nya_09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! When I was married to my ex and he worked overtime. You should seek professional help or do volunteer work at food pantries or other organizations that need help or join a gym and workout to boost your spirits and meet others.
2007-08-16 14:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by cats 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get into a good christian church and join the woman's group you will meet a lot of nice woman all ages and do a lot of things with them so you won't be so lonely.
2007-08-16 14:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a difference between being ALONE and LONELY. you are be in a room full of people and still be LONELY. it's a state of mind.
be patient with your new surroundings. it is just another new chapter in your life. there are good people everywhere; take your time and meet some of them. good luck!!
2007-08-16 14:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by 100% ♥Creole♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋