I was supposed to have lunch w/ a friend on Friday. I emailed him on myspace and he says he was never notified of my message. he never gave me a # to call him at if anything changed. I had a horrible day and took out my anger on him. after he explained what happened, i apologized for taking my anger out on him. I wrote him a big ol' apology saying I like to give a few days' breathing room for things to blow over and that I was going to email him for sure. he called me defending himself and I apologized again. he wrote back saying that "(he's) not sure he believes all of it" but "that's all in the past now" and he "may or may not call me". It felt like he had to attack me one last time before he decided to close it. After looking over his email again, I would rather him not call me after all. Am I in the wrong to email him defending myself against that last accusation and say I don't want him to call me? He also said he's done brash things before so i guess it's not unfamiliar to him.
2007-08-16 13:57:29 · 5 answers · asked by caliguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't have his phone number, he has mine. When he called it shows up "Private"
2007-08-16 14:51:50 · update #1
The longer the two of you keep "defending" yourselves instead or moving on its like a wound that is never allowed to heel.
Be the bigger person - and move on.
2007-08-24 09:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that once you've said something in the heat of the moment, you can't take it back. It sounds like the two of you have gotten pretty emotional about the whole thing already...you just seem to be making it worse by defending yourself and then apologizing... sometimes you have to pick and choose when you are going to keep at it - and when to let it go.
2007-08-23 14:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by aja5505 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were both in the wrong and are acting emotional instead of rational. I think you should speak to him and try to get a handle on your emotions. Do you like this person? Communicate openly and honestly. Don't make accusations. Stick to the facts and your feelings. You cannot control the other person. If after you have spoken and you don't want to continue the friendship then that is your choice and his as well. It happens sometimes but you can both move on regardless. Just try to bring in reason. Try to take out the emotion except in terms of expressing how you feel.
2007-08-22 12:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call him and tell him how he made you feel, e-mail is not personal...sometimes you can write it better then you can say it and sometimes you just put all out there to get it off your chest ....call him and tell him how you feel....e-mail can just make the whole thing worse.
2007-08-16 21:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by 2sexxxy32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a problem like this. its so much better to do it in person because i got in a fight with my friend and i apologized in email and everything but one time i went over to a friends house and my friend forgott to tell me that she was there and i decided to talk to her in person and she was like its alright.
2007-08-16 21:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by livin life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋