Is it inappropriate to do platonic activities with a married guy if you're a single woman?

Question

if his wife is another state? activities like going to the movies or dinner or lunch, etc.

Answer 1

Yes, it is very wrong to spend time with a married man- period!~

Answer 2

YES, it is VERY inappropriate to do ANY activities with a married man. There are PLENTY of single men for you and and 'single' woman to do...I think it's rude and disrespectful to the wife for you to even think of it...However, if you are some chick the wife has known from way back or are family and feels comfortable about you, it MIGHT be okay...but why even bother with the married peoples? You can go out with the married guy WITH his wife...hey that's an idea!
I mean, especially knowing the wife is in another state...he may not be the one to be blamed for the trouble you are causing...that's definitely something the 'single' person is planning to screw up. That's mean.

Answer 3

Honey call a spade a spade, you are dating this man plain and simple and you need to stop it immediately. You know you are wrong or you would not be asking questions like this. Why are you not doing these activities like going to the movies or dinner or lunch with some nice single available man? You are on the road to becoming a home wrecker and don't protest. Tell me, what do you think a married man is thinking about when his wife is out of state and he is asking a young single woman out to dinners?Is that what you want to be, some stuff on the side? Have some decency and self respect and get away from that poor woman's husband.

Answer 4

Even though this may be very innocent on both your parts it could open the door for temptation to enter. He is a married man away from his wife unable to have sex from her and bored and lonesome. You may be setting up the perfect scenario for the both of you to start an affair that could leave someone to get very hurt emotionally and that could just end up being you. He is already committed to someone else that loves him and believes in what they have. With all my best respect to you I would walk away from this man now and leave him be. Think of how you would feel if you were his wife and you found out that while away from you he was taking another woman out to dinner, lunch and the movies? Anytime a man witholds information from his wife or hides something that he is doing (another woman) his intentions are not good for either one of you! He is betraying his wife for one and if he gets you to third base he will be using you for his own self-satisfaction. Some men know how to wine and dine and know exactly where to take a woman to get what he wants....be aware of the snake in the grass and don't let him bite you. Take care and good luck.

Answer 5

If you were in the wife's position, would you be upset that your husband was going out with another woman? Most likely. His wife is in another state, so she's obviously not around to give him the female companionship that he desires. The platonic relationship has open opportunity to "accidentally" develop into more, especially since he is going behind his wife's back. It is always a good idea to avoid this type of situation and entangling yourself in a domestic conflict.

Answer 6

I would say that the boundary should be where his wife finds activities inappropriate. If she doesn't think movies, lunch, dinner etc... is inappropriate then it isn't. Also, if she were the type of woman that didn't think him hugging or kissing you was inappropriate then it isn't.

However, if the reverse were true and she would be hurt by any relationship between you and her husband THAT would be inappropriate.

Nutshell answer - if someone is going to be hurt or angry it's probably inappropriate.

Answer 7

This is a good question and I am answering as the wife of a man who has a very close female single friend.

There have been many times where I have felt uncomfortable about the friendship between my husband and "the other woman". , Even though I know where my husband is every night and we socialize almost every weekend. My husband wants to include her in activities that I would rather he consult me on first (i.e. vacations). He says he thinks of her as a sister but he wouldn't ask his sister to celebrate special anniversary early or later just so we can all go abroad together...

Answer 8

Yes it is very inappropriate and you know it is,does his wife know about the two of you bet she don't and never will. You know where this is going to lead and believe me that is all he is thinking about.You will get hurt not him or his wife unless you tell her, you need to walk away from this and leave him alone. It's up to you what is going to happen between the two of you,you hold all the cards don't be a home wrecker don't brake his wife's heart think of her and think how you would feel if you were her.Be a good person here and do what is right.

Answer 9

It is inappropriate to see someone when they are married. Even if there is nothing going on and you both are only friends then some people will talk. I would not like it if my husband were seeing someone on a platonic relationship. The guy needs to find himself a guy friend to go things with. You also need to be with someone who is not married.

Answer 10

I would think that's really unappropriate because he's married and it doesn't matter that his wife's in a different state. You obviously are feeling guilty about what you are doing because if not you wouldn't be on here asking this. Even if it's the movies, dinner and etc. you know that sooner or later it just might lead to something else!

Answer 11

It is, if you have to ask on yahoo answers. Because if it was only for friendship you wouldn't doubt your intentions. When theirs nothing wrong, theirs no doubt, which means theirs no questions.

If you got married, would you mind your husband going out with a woman for movies, dinner or lunch when your not around?

I think it's ok, if the wife knows about you. Then you could consider that a friendship, and that's not wrong.