Recently I have lost the urge to be intimate. Don't get me wrong, being with my hubby is great, but lately I have just not been in the mood. I feel really tired and stressed.There's times where he makes advances and I just don't want to. Is this normal or am I losing my sexuality?
2007-08-16 13:43:42 · 8 answers · asked by sassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not unusual at all, you're normal, appetites came and go ebb and flow.
Change the look of your bedroom move the furniture around put fresh linen on the bed, add new pillows, sprinkle lavender over the sheets and relax.
Stop worrying about it. make sure you are eating a healthy diet rich in fruit and veggies and take your vitamins daily. make sure you are getting enough sleep.
My Dr. once told me when i was going through this to sleep together and NOT touch for a MONTH. put pillows between you if necessary and stay in the same bed but he is forbidden to you as you are to him. you'll be amazed if you can last a month
2007-08-16 13:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're depressed. People don't just lose their sexuality. There also might be problems in the relationship. Counseling for you would be a good idea. Then I would look at going to a different counselor with your husband and see what comes of that.
If you don't address this, it may be a matter of time before he either loses interest in you or he goes elsewhere to get his desires met.
It's no fun to have sex with a woman who is not into it. No fun at all. So your sex life is going to completely go away if you allow this to continue.
If the two of you don't talk very often, you need to work on that. I find that if the communication is good (and positive and healthy) the sex just happens and it's good.
There's something else wrong here. This ain't about sex. The lack of sexual drive is just a symptom of whatever it is that is going on. Don't ignore this.
Good luck.
2007-08-16 21:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal. Happens to men as well as women, the longer you're with someone the harder it is to initiate intimacy with them. Once you're there you're pretty much okay, but getting there tends to be an issue. If you're tired and stressed you're not going to feel like doing it anyway; that's the first thing you have to address is find out how to reduce being tired and stressed. S_x isn't going to do anything but add more stress and make you even more tired.
Counseling will help you to figure out whether it is him that you are avoiding, and being tired and stressed is just a symptom of your not being into him anymore or if that really is the issue. Either way I wouldn't worry there may be something that he isn't doing that he should be, or a different way that you can relate to him.
2007-08-16 21:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's crucial that you let him know its not him and he is the most important thing to you. It ok to turn him down on occation but don't make it a habit. Us guys take a lot of our self worth from sex and when we get turned down by our wives it really hurts, we're being rejected by the person we've give our lives to.
I kind of view it as a party, if you keep having parties and inviting the same person to it and that person keeps saying they can't go, you will eventually stop inviting that person. And if that person is your best friend you really feel bad about it.
It depends on how long you've felt this way hopefully it will pass, if doesn't see a doctor but for now maybe do some reading on the web about that topic.
2007-08-16 21:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by Beagle_Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women experience this, Loss of sexual desire. It can be for a number of reasons. Check out the websites below for more information and talk to your doctor.
2007-08-16 21:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by LaTrice B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ride it out, it will come back when your life returns to normal. Yes, this can be normal but don't let it go to long without you talking to your husband. If you don't it could back fire and he'll find his satisfaction somewhere so talk to him so he doesn't think it's him.
2007-08-16 20:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by exoticflava 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for you to go through phases. It will pass in time, but if it does not, talk to your doctor.
2007-08-16 20:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, but joint counseling should be sought.
2007-08-16 20:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋