I am a gay 45 year old man and 5 months ago I met and became good friends with a 35 year old gay man.
A month ago I realized I had fallen head over heels in love. It's an intense non-sexual crush and for the last month I have thought of him 24/7 and have regularly burst into tears. I wait for the phone to ring etc etc
He is committed elsehwere and we can't get together and I told him friendship won't work under these circumstances and I severed contact with him and then I sent him a text saying I was going crazy and needed to see him.
This feels like a very, very strong teenage crush but I am, technically middle aged.
We are both very young for our ages - if you understand. Not typical.
a/ Is it normal for people of ALL ages to develop very strong crushes? I have been single for 15 years and until now quite happy about it. I feel like I am in love.
b/ How do I get past this and regain my sanity?
2007-08-16 13:43:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
omg, that is so cute, you don't even know! haha.
why would you want to get over that. i have the same feelings for a guy....thinking about him non-stop, but unable to really make it work right now. the only difference is i'm a girl :P.
i think it's totally normal for someone of any age to have those kinds of crushes
2007-08-16 13:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have strong crushes at any age. Just because you say it is non sexual, doesn't mean you can't develope those feelings down the line. It never gets any easier to deal with crushes, but if he is commited to someone else, you will have to respect that. Find a way to occupy your time, because a friendship may not work out until the feelings fade. You could also wait it out and see if he available down the line, but do not do anything to interfer with whatever it is that keeps him from you.
Have you told him how you felt? Maybe he is willing to change things to be with you?
2007-08-16 13:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that you can not be with this person then you know it's time to move on. Think of some interesting things that you can do, go out with some friends do fun stuff so that you can keep your mind occupied. It's tough, but you have to concentrate on youself an your own happiness.
2007-08-16 14:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get too obsess with the person. enjoy the feeling but you have to be in control of your emotion. you're mature enough to know what you're doing. calm yourself and dont let your emotion take control of your life.
2007-08-16 13:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋