What's a good way 2 make conversation?

Question

ok so i just started middle school n today was the 2nd day. non of my friends from grade school r in classes with me. I want to make new friends but i'm not good at STARTING the conversation, neither r most people. what do i talk 2 people about?

ya so far the most conversation i've made is "can u please help me open my locker?" i was a few minutes late 2 class already n i made this one guy even later (but we were goin 2 the same class).

Answer 1

How about "I went to (name of your) School last year. Which school did you go to?"

Answer 2

It's always good to start with a compliment. Trust me, it always works. Hopefully, that person will say "Thank you." and you can ask, where did you get it? They'll tell you and then you can say, "Oh, I love that place!!!" (Even if you don't)
At least then you'll have something to talk about.
You could also talk about the class, like say, "omg, this is so hard." (only say this if it looks like the person you're talking to is doing well with it. You could then say, "Do you think you could help me with it?"
It must be really hard to have to go to a new school where you don't know anyone-I've been there and best of luck to you!!!!

Answer 3

Starting a conversation with a stranger can be daunting, but it doesn’t have to be impossible.

Every conversation runs its course within a similar outline: making first contact, introductions, speaking with each other, and then ending the conversation - hopefully with plans to meet again. To navigate these sometimes scary but usually rewarding waters, read on for some tips and tricks regarding conversation starters.

The purpose of breaking the ice with someone new isn’t to show off your amazing conversational skills. Instead, think of your initial contact as a way to show a potential date that you’d like to talk to them.

Some conversation starter ideas to get the words flowing:
Comment on an item that you both share in your immediate surroundings, such as the long lineup you’re both waiting in or the wobbly chair next to you. By focusing an item you can both experience, you’re removing any potential awkwardness with a canned comment.


Sometimes a look is all that’s needed to break the ice. When faced with a person you find attractive, why not give them a genuine, 3 second smile? You may be surprised when the object of your happiness starts a conversation with you, instead.


If there is something the person is or has that truly intrigues you, simply use that as a conversation starter. This could be as simple as admiring a piece of clothing or asking them about the item they ordered.


A genuine hello coupled with a smile can be equally as effective. A quick, “How are you today?” works too for a straightforward follow up.
Start a Conversation With These Handy Things To Talk About
You’ve made first contact – now what? Conversation starters that seem witty or interesting can be a challenge in the spur-of-the-moment. That’s why spending a little bit of time at home pondering the ‘now what’ will pay, later. You don’t need to invest hours into these conversation starters though. Some quick ideas that can work in a pinch:

Current event topics of interest to you; the last movie you watched; a comment about the event you’re attending, with a follow-up question asking how they heard about it. The point of this exercise is to create a backup of topics that you can draw upon on a moment’s notice to start a conversation that would also be of interest to someone else. Having said that, remember that this is still your first conversation, so there are a couple of conversation starters to avoid for now, such as:

How much you dislike your school, wardrobe, friends or any other negative associations.

Once the back-and-forth exchange has begun, it is your responsibility to keep the flow moving – which entails listening, responding and moving seamlessly between topics to create a connection. Although this may sound challenging, it’s a simple process best described using an example.

Say the object of your affections intimated that they came to this particular coffee shop because a friend told them there was free WiFi access and they were excited to try the service out. A great segue to keep this conversation moving forward would be to ask where else they’ve found a good WiFi connection in town, if anywhere. For those not familiar with WiFi, you could ask what WiFi is and how it works.

In a nutshell, listen to what the person responds with, and then think to yourself, “What do I know about those particular subjects?” Using the example again, you could easily discuss a myriad of things, such as where electrical plug-ins are located, the best place to sit while working on a laptop, or further inquiries about what kind of work they perform on their laptop.

Focus on taking your own experiences and weaving them in with the other person’s responses.

By doing so, you’ll be forging a connection with the person, creating hooks of information with which to start a conversation at a later date. To ensure that you are actually conversing, and not just bantering back and forth in a quick succession of questions and answers, try to remember these key points:
Keep whatever stories or experiences you are sharing to less than a two minute retelling. Shorter is better in this instance. You can always expand more if the person asks.


Turn the conversation back to the other person where you can, such as, “What do you think?” or, “How about you?”;


Try to your conversation partner do half of the talking, with a natural blend of questions and answers. Twenty questions isn’t the goal right now;


Don’t focus on one topic for too long, and if your talk gravitates to another subject - let it. This should be light and fun, not intense.
Ending a Conversation Gracefully
Every fantastic conversation must eventually finish, so let the conversation you started go gracefully and with style. Don’t provide too much information or go on for half an hour about your common interests. You may feel obligated to continue forward, but why not leave on a great note with your companion wanting more?

Thank the other person for their time and let them know you’ve got something else to do, but you’d like to continue the conversation another time when it’s convenient for the both of you. Using the WiFi situation as an example, you could say, “I’m going to be late for a meeting, but I’d really like to check out the restaurant you mentioned. Perhaps we could continue this conversation there together later on in the week? What do you think?”

After you’ve exchanged contact information, smile and go off to do whatever it is that you’ve moved on to. Make sure to look back just as you are leaving to smile again, acknowledging your newfound acquaintance and allowing them to feel just as special as you do for having met someone new.

I hope this helps...Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

I'll give you some steps on how to make a convo. let me know how it goes =)
Step 1: Greet the person and smile in a friendly way.
Step 2: Ask in a general, friendly tone, "How are you?", "How have things been?" "Nice weather we're having!" Etc..
Step 3 : Go into general topics in common, such as
current news, issues, weather, interests, friendly topics such as food, music, movies, books, sports,fashion, etc.
The topics that are on the MySpace forums are excellent topics for conversation starters. Just omit topics such as Business and Entrepreneurs, Film making (this is myspace only), hardcore politics, religion, and some of the creepy general discussion topics.
Observe any visual clues to draw a topic out. For example, a certain wristband, watch, gadget. Notice if someone looks interested or bored.
Ask them what kind of genre (for example: pop, reggae, country, and etc.) of music that the person likes. Once they tell you, try to think of a song from that genre that you know, and could use to get the conversation started. Sometimes simple things like these are really good conversation starters especially if the person happens to like the same kind of music that you do. You can discuss different bands, or singers. Discuss maybe what concerts you have been to, or would like to go see. Ask them what kind of concert they would go to if they had the chance to.
Ask them what their favorite food is. For example you might want to ask them if they like Mexican food, or maybe American food perhaps. Once they reply to you, you respond with your kind of favorite food, and then you proceed to ask them which restaurant they like the most. This good conversation starter is especially good with new dates that you go out with. This way you know where to take them when you take them out the next time you see them. Plus maybe you, and the other person might even like the same restaurant so that makes it even better.

Answer 5

Hi

That's great you started school..crazy I know...well what I would do cause I usually don't like starting conversations either..would be to wait till something crazy happens or just anything really that comes up..and comment on it..or say something funny...that will get people talking to you..but don't make it weird just cool and fun!
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Answer 6

Ask more then you tell. Ask people questions about how their summers were, and if they went anywhere, ask them if they have brothers and sisters...there are a lot of ways to start a conversation. Be an aggressor...talk to them first, you will gain more respect and more friends.

Answer 7

Just ask a bunch of questions, but not too many people may get annoyed. Just ask them if they play any sports or who they hang out with, and then once you feel that your actually having a conversation just be like "We should hang out sometime" it worked for me when i started middle school

Answer 8

make a comment about the work in class to someone you would like to be friends with like do you get this or something casual. then when they answer you it can lead into hey do you want to sit together at lunch or what ever

Answer 9

Be confident in your self and say hello or hi first. Others get attracted to you when you show courage in yourself.
No one wants to be near a loner. Not that they are bad people, but people kind of want to know whether that's all there is to you.

Good luck.

Cheers

Answer 10

Make funny noises.
Ask seatmates about their clothing and where they shopped for whatever they're wearing.
Sports. Shout out "GO ____________" (insert name of team)
Just say out loud in the middle of class, "This SUCKS" and then don't say anything afterwards for a while. They will think you're moody and deep.
Another good throwaway comment: "When's this day ever gonna END?|

Answer 11

Things you KNOW you have in common. Classes, or teachers is always an easy starter. Myspace, cell phones, what you did over the summer.