ex wife dies, no knowledge of and her step brother hasnt told me in 2 years and has my child.?

Question

got divorced just over 2 years ago, started proceedings for access to my child, mother moves house.
i started searching everywhere for her to see my child but couldnt find her.
2 years later phoned post office where she used to live and they told me she had died.shocked to say the least, where is my daughter.
remembered one of her friends names and contacted her she gave me details of where she is now, with tel no and address.
phoned and my ex wife's step brother answered and says he is looking after her, and does not want me to see her for a 2 years.
phoned him back next day and played nice, asking why he didnt phone me in 2 years to tell me about the circumstance and to pick up my daughter,he said he is in will as guardian.
then asked aout the grandmother who i knew was living with him and he said she is fine and promptly ended the conversation.found out the next day the grandmother had died a year ago and he had lied.went to pick her up + was almost arrested.what should i do?

Answer 1

Good lord . Get a layer fast . You cant just will guardianship its has to be legal . They probably filed for guardianship and told the court they had no idea where you was . You still have your right to visitation . Best thing to do is to take it to court as soon as possible . The step brother has no right to tell you that he does not want you to see the child for 2 years its not his call.

Answer 2

All you need to do is go to the family court of your daughter's residence(where the child lives) and file a motion for "change of circumstances" make sure you get a valid copy of your ex wife's death certificate(bureau of vital statistics) to show the court that your wife had died and that you therefore, as the biological father of the child request custody for the child. It ahould be granted without major problems. Even though her step brother is willed as the guardian, it was his obligation to let you know that the child was no longer having a mother. I do not know for sure if there would be legal consequences for him--if he cannot show the will in court he could face consequences, but as far as you and your daughter are concerned should you have very little problems to get custody for her. Good Luck

Answer 3

Why did it take you so long to think about phoning where she used to live and a friend who told you, and gave a number - doesn't sound like you were looking that hard. More to this - why would you expect anybody to hand over a child to someone they haven't seen for over two years? I should think you were 'almost' arrested! How distressing do you think that would be for your daughter! he's doing the best for her, there's no way anyone is just going to alllow that without seriously checking out your circumstances probably involving social workers etc.

Answer 4

Really a partner should be there for you when you are having a difficult time. That is what relationships are all about. Its understanding he is hesitant becaus he may feel that if you through another patch then you may push him away again. Read here https://tr.im/NC1Na

I am going through something similar, but she hasnt made any contact to come back to me, and I know even though I may want her, I would be hesitant because of the possibility of going through the same thing again.

I dont know how long you have been apart, but dont pester him to get back with you, although it would be good for you to let him know your feelings, and that you are sorry for pushing him aside.

If he is willing to chat, then great, if he is reluctant, just offer to be a friend maybe, but you have to know that it does not mean he will come back to you.

He will care about you, even after what iv gone through...feelings dont just dissapear no matter what he may say. Stick in there. only time will tell.

If you get another chance, then make the most of it and never let him go awain because if you do, he will never come back. I really hope it works out for you. Its a difficult thing to go through.

Answer 5

Get a solictior, you can have a 30 min meeting for free. How old is your daughter now?? Must be hard for you to find out that all this has gone on without neing told, your daughter must have really needed you when her mum died.

I hope you manage to get it sorted and see her. Sadly it might be quite a long process. You must understand that she hasn't seen you in over 2 years and there is no telling what lies she has been fed regarding you.

Hope it works out for you and you are reunited wih your daughter

Answer 6

Start legal proceedings to get your child. It will take a lot of work and time to attend hearings etc. because the stepbrother was listed as legal guardian in the will and you've been out of the picture for two years.

Answer 7

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 8

can not believe it has been that long since she past and u were clueless, maybe if u have been that out of touch u should leave well enough along and let that baby's wound's heel from the loss of her mother! Do not add to her emotional devastation and remove her from what she knows as home, she will only suffer more loss!

Answer 9

file for legal rights as the childs father to see her and then you move on get a good lawyer and take the matter to court its the only way you have to go through the courts to get your daughter she a legal gauardian and unless you take it to the courts he will have all legal rights to keep her ,you can get your daughter back just get your lawyer and get the matter to the courts every thing will be resolved...

Answer 10

Notify the cout system in your city and find out what you need to do to retreive your child. If there is a will you will have to go before a judge.