My ten month old bit my husband on the back of the leg, so my (POS) husband flipped him over and slapped him on the leg. It left a hand print where you could see where all of his fingers were, and little welts in between the finger marks. It was red for about 15-20 minutes. I was so mad, I yelled at him, he called me a ***** so I smacked him on the mouth and he slapped me so hard my ear was ringing. I'm not worried about me, but I took pictures of my sons leg, and I wanted to know if this was punishable by law. I'm not about to let this crap happen again. He's just a baby for God's sake! I know this is a crappy place to come for something like this, but I don't really want to talk to anyone about it because they'd come over and kill him. I don't want all of that drama right now. What should I do?
2007-08-16 12:49:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's not child abuse. However, your man has a problem with violence, and you need to get yourself and your child away from him as soon as possible.
2007-08-16 12:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by bg4gb 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I know that in CA, hitting anywhere other than a slap on the butt over clothing is considered abuse. Legally. Personally, I think any hitting is abuse.
Unfortunately, even though he might have deserved a back hand to the mouth, the police would have to give him the option of pressing charges also. The cops don't like to, but it's the way the law works.
Any man who will hit a child for something like that is rather questionable. I work with dogs and get bitten all the time, but I certainly don't have the reaction to slap them! This is a child we're talking about!
From another legal standpoint, any domestic violence that has taken place infront of the child is considered neglect. If your child witnesses you being abused, it is also classed as abuse to your child. Studies have shown that children under the age of 5 who have been exposed to domestic violence often have a different chemical make up in their brain.
Your husband has got away with hitting you both. Now the door has been opened, and there's nothing to stop him doing it again. Just think about that.
2007-08-16 13:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the way you think and the way you love that baby. It is definitely considered CHILD ABUSE. You cannot hit a baby! You cannot even hit another human being! It is against the law!
He went completely over the line when he hit the baby that hard and then YOU! What the hell is the matter with him. Is he feeling guilty? Did he apologize? Is he asking for your forgiveness? Or could he care less what you think? If you say YES to that last question, then you have a major problem.
You cannot ignore this. You have to make sure that he feels so wrong for what he did. You can only find out if you confront him about this. He will probably not want to talk about it and that will tell you right there, that he is not going to ask for your forgiveness. Well, he might if you say, he has to leave!
I'm sorry, I'm like you when it comes to hurting a baby. Don't push this under the rug. He went so out of line. Do whatever you could so you can feel comfortable again. I wish you all the luck. God Bless your beautiful baby.
2007-08-16 13:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to say it but I've smacked my kid on the hand/arm when he does something I've asked him not to do several times and he's out of control and it left a hand print but not welts but I felt terrible. This was when he's like 4 or 5 which were his "terrible two years". I then decided to just spank him on the bottom. It's not right for a 10 month old. The fact that he hit you so hard your ear was ringing is bad news too. I'm afraid there is more to this than just a hand print from a smack....you shouldn't have struck him either. This is going to lead to a home filled with domestic violence which doesn't sound like you want that so get help NOW.
2007-08-16 13:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by Wonder Woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, there was a lot of slapping going on. First, the baby doesn't know better, your husband could have easily just said NO firmly to the child. I understand your anger, but you slapping him and he beating you is a very bad situation to be in. You could report your husband for hitting the child and you, and he could report you for hitting him. Think before you act, your child could be taken away if the the cops get called for domestic abuse. If your husband hits the child again, you do need to leave that environment, since he seems like he has a short fuse. Good Luck.
2007-08-16 13:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by Donna J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here in Canada, it's considered child abuse to spank a child under 2 years of age because they really can't understand it before that then. It's also illegal to leave marks or welts regardless of a child's age. Your husband was way out of line. And he hit you too? He sounds like a violent person and not someone that either you or your son need in your lives.
2015-11-04 11:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what he simply did was imply that biting was not okay. If you're gonna try and get him in trouble for it all he has to do is say this is how he disciplines his children. As for him slapping you, you can't really do anything about that either because you slapped him first and instigated him. I really don't think you can do anything about it. If it's been an ongoing thing then it's abuse and you would have every right to do something about it.
2007-08-16 13:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by ~{Graciela}~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local police department and DSS board. Because he slapped you, it sounds like this is the beginning of an abusive relationship. You shouldn't have slapped him though; it could hurt your case. I do understand though, that you were in a fit of rage protecting your child.
But, the best thing to do is contact your local law enforcement. They'll know how to handle it. It sounds like you want to go after this guy for abuse... so go for it. Just realize the big up-hill battle you're about to embark upon.
Good luck. I hope it all works out.
2007-08-16 12:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by Impavidsoul 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well at least we know where you son has learned his violent tendancies...both you and your husband are the ones who have taught your son to be violent. Oh and by the way, yes what your husband did IS child abuse, if I were there I would have called cps because it is quite obvious that neither ONE of you have any parenting skills and you are teaching your so that abusing someone else is okay. BOTH of you are guilty of doing so and your child should be removed from your home.
2007-08-16 16:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a smart woman that actually NOTICED and PAID ATTENTION to the red flag!! A 10 month old is a BABY!!! I have 3 kids, and yes discipline is very important...but right now a 10 month old is probably what is called TEETHING...F**K that!!! Don't let anyone hit ur babie/babies out of anger...YOUR mom and we as mothers need to protect OUR babies that we carried and gave birth to. That's our responsibility..you go strait to the police department, show them the picture and be strong..Obviously he's lost his temper before with you..lets move on and if you couldn't stand up for yourself..please stand up for your child!!! God bless and be strong mom!!
2007-08-16 13:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by truthgrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A one time incident can be forgiven but if a pattern of abuse develops then it will become a crime.sowach out for any more marks mad especially if youre not around. The pictures are a good thing. Also watch the domestic violence on you too.
2007-08-16 13:04:24 · answer #11 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋