we have had soooo many problems and we fight constantly. He was depressed for a long time and he finally came out of it . With all the problems and cheating on his part i dont know how i feel anymore. A couple of days ago i was hanging out with some friends and i found myself really attracted to somebody else which is new for me. He doesnt know who i am and i dont know too much about him except he dated one of my friends for like a week and then she cheated on him. I have his number and i am tempted to call but i am married. What the hell is happening to me?
2007-08-16 12:41:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you ask me if he was a cheater then there isn't a thing wrong with you . Cheater just aren't worth being with .Cant see why a person would want to stay with a cheater ,Your perfectly normal
2007-08-16 12:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have problems in your marriage, it's much easier to consider other options so there's nothing wrong with the way you are feeling. It's human nature. You would probably not entertain the idea if everything was great in your relationship. That said, you must remember that you are still married. If you are truly that unhappy and do not want to work to save your marriage then you need to get a divorce. Then you can pursue this other person or anyone else. Until then, do the right thing, you will feel much better about yourself in the end. Good Luck
2007-08-16 14:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by bebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there! It is normal for couples to argue and have some disagreements especially that you are still freshly married. With the cheating on your husband part, I don't think his depression is an excuse for it. Being attracted to somebody is pretty normal especially if you're in a very vulnerable stage or even if you're not. Why won't you talk to your husband and see if there's something that you can both do. And about the other guy, it's okay to have a male friend even when you're married as long as you have some limitations on how far your friendship is gonna end. I think you really just want somebody that you can talk to and be able to make you feel important in their life. I was in the same situation with you... Email me if you like...
2007-08-16 12:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by prettyjewel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him. Work it out with your marriage (meaning either divorce, or don't), but don't cheat. That won't solve anything. I know the feeling of being with someone who doesn't love you like you love them. It's painful, and makes you feel really low, and now you're attracted to a man that is attracted to you, and you've got that "butterflies in your stomach, new and exciting" feeling again. But it's not worth it to cheat. It'll only hurt everyone around you, and end up ultimately giving you a reason to feel guilty, and lower than you could ever have felt being with your husband.
Either work it out with your hubby, or divorce him. Then explore your other romantic options.
Good luck.
2007-08-16 12:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by Impavidsoul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always think it's best to leave the situation I'm in before I start a new one. I would separate and start dating other people. If you want to try to make it work, you should suggest counseling, otherwise, you need to move on. No time to waste, life is too short. Before you know it, you'll have kids and then you're stuck with the cheaten jerk, for life, even if you don't stay together, you will always have him in your life. Marriage is not easy but it shouldn't make you miserable. Communication is key, you both need to find each other as one or move on! Good luck and don't sell yourself short.... everyone deserves to be happy!!
2007-08-16 13:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by coneja loca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not happy in your relationship and someone new has attracted your attention. You need to stop right now. You do not need to add the extra stress and trouble of an affair to the mess you already got going. If you are done with your marriage, you need to address that before you go on the hunt for a new guy. Take care of your current business before you try to take on someone new...unless you want a whole lot more trouble and heartache than you got right now.
2007-08-16 12:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look I'm gonna side with most everyone else here. Maybe you should get a divorce. but do not, please do not cheat. It can be one of the most painful things a person can do to another. When you got married you made promises and agreements with each other, even if he has not upheld his end, that doesn't mean you should not uphold yours. If you don't love him anymore, then yes maybe its time for a divorce, but don't cheat.
2007-08-16 13:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by crysent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're looking for a bit of happiness, and what says happiness like a good relationship and someone who treats you nicely? I don't know what to say because I don't condone adultery, but neither do I feel you should be unhappy. You should sort out you marriage and what you want to do about it, then embark on a new relationship. Good luck to you!
2007-08-16 12:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by clairdeluny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're looking for someone to show you affection and make you feel attractive.
If I was married and my husband cheated on me, I'd leave.
I'd file for divorce before you called the other guy.
2007-08-16 12:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Sumie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go for the other guy. If your husband cheated on you, you should leave him. Get a divorce before you do anything with the other guy though.
2007-08-16 12:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Girl Rylin 5/3/08 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋