you think the significant other is the love of your life. But it is somewhat onesided. He/she loves you a lot, but they treat you terrible. This is a person that you can revolve your life around but it is undr their control. You can definitely get treated better by someone else, but this is the first person you have ever loved, (in 45 years). Question is, do you stay and get treated not so good but you are in love, or do you leave and find a person that treats you great but you are not in love with. Thanks for your help
2007-08-16 11:58:15 · 9 answers · asked by chip t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you stay with the one you love and start to stand up to them a bit. Work on it, go to counseling etc.
2007-08-16 12:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to a therapist to figure out why you would even love someone who treats you badly. is there a pattern of abuse or neglect in your past? often abused/neglected children still seek the love and approval of their abuser. will this person even marry you? if this person treats you badly during the wooing stage of a relationship, imagine how badly they will treat you once they have you bound by marriage. it seems to me that you have a self-esteem problem. it is unnatural/unhealthy to love someone who you realize is unkind and unloving to you. if you will tolerate this, what else will you tolerate? her cheating on you? her belittling you in front of others? you say you haven't loved anyone before this person. consider this...in ALL of your past relationships, the only thing that was EXACTLY the same is YOU. figure out what it is about you that doesn't find a healthy, mutual affection attractive. don't assume that the women are the issue or that no other woman can attract you or gain your love.
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2007-08-16 12:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave and find a person that will treat me right....you can fall in love again! Don't be afraid to be alone....thinking like that is probably what made you run to her in the first place.
2007-08-16 12:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by BossLady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of cases of people who love deeply, yet cannot be with the person for reasons similar to yours.
I would love her from afar unless or until she realizes how good she had it with you.
Perhaps that will happen after you leave, you never know.
Good luck to you and God bless.
2007-08-16 12:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People want to be with their equal and NOT with someone who will do everything they want or try and buy their affection.
Over time the sub-person would be abused and most likely cheated on when the other person finally goes looks for their equal.
2007-08-16 12:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you would be amazed to find out that you can love again. and it truely makes it much easier to love someone when they truely love you in return. when a person controls you and treats you like crap they don't love you! believe me i found out first hand. get out while you can and don't look back. it's not worth being demeaned all the time by someone that is not worth your time!
2007-08-16 12:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by MotherTeresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave and find someone that treats you right AND you are crazy in love with AND is crazy in love with you! Don't sell yourself short and settle.
2007-08-16 12:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can you say loves you a lot and treat you terrible in the same sentence
2007-08-16 12:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
holy cow! ,you are asking a tough question, i'll be waiting for some answers too!
2007-08-16 13:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋