be interesting to know this question and the difference if any between the ladies and fellas
2007-08-16 11:29:35 · 38 answers · asked by boro lass 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think when your kids are little, they have to come first and once they're older, priorities should be considered on a case by case basis. However, you should never completely put your husband/wife to the side in favor of your children. I think it's important for your kids to know that you and your spouse/partner are a team and that you'll do what needs to be done to maintain a good and strong relationship. My husband and I would do anything for our son and he knows that. Our world revolves around our son so all you moms who are gonna freak because I say my husband mainly comes first can calm down.... My opinion is that if my marriage suffers for any reason, my son will suffer so my husband is actually priority one. (Not sure I'm explaining it right...) Once your kids are grown, you will be alone again with the person you married and if you spent all your time investing in your kids, I think there will be some serious issues ahead.
2007-08-16 17:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Empress1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband/wife/partner
2007-08-16 11:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ade 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe that your spouse comes first and then your children. It sounds wrong, but if you have a strong relationship with your spouse, you should never have to choose between the two. Sure your kids are your flesh and blood, but you CHOSE your spouse when you married them. Your spouse is your partner in life and you raise your kids together.
2007-08-16 12:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Cheezie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids are very important and I always take care of their needs first. They depend on me because they are so young. But I do set aside time just for my husband and my self. If your always about your kids then your marriage will suffer so it is important to find a middle ground.
2007-08-16 14:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is very hard for ppl to say and a lot of ppl will disagree with me. my children always come first when it comes to the safety or if my husband were to do something that would put them in danger. but my husband comes first in love. not because he is more important, but because my children are in that home seeing every step of our love. and if i love my husband more than anything and he does the same in return our children will grown up in a loving caring home. the way you love your spouse is how your children will love there's and will look for in a spouse. you don't want your kids being with someone who will beat the crap out of them. just really think about it.
2007-08-16 11:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by kchase 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I come first, then my husband, and then the kids. You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of your family. If you didn't have your spouse you wouldn't have your kids, so your spouse comes second, and then the kids. The best gift you can give your kids is for happy parents!
2007-08-16 14:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by Dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your religion in the Bible your spouse would come first and children last. Your spouse is your life partner and more children can be created.
In my case I love my kids more then myself, the come before everyone and everything!
2007-08-16 12:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dreamy S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all relative. If there's abuse of you or your children, their/your safety should come first!! If it's a normal relationship and the couple should be able to talk freely and compromise on most decisions and support each other on decisions regarding the kids. Hint ladies: If your guy can't talk to you freely like you're "one of the guys" including his thoughts of other woman (sexually) then he won't be happy.
2007-08-16 11:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sexy Anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The spouse comes first, then the kids. If you have a good marriage, the kids will come around to your example. If you have a crapy marriage, the kids see that example also.
2007-08-16 11:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My wife comes first!! She has to or the marriage will be rocky! Now don't get me wrong my kids are VERY important, but the wife has to be happy!! The kid don't make my life miserable, and they'll gonna to get what they need while wifey poo gets what she wants!!
A happy wife means a happy home!!
2007-08-16 11:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋