I was thinking about all these situations of people cheating on eachother. Why do people take these chances?
My Question is if you were having a good marriage and somebody becomes special in your life and you had to make a choice. Which would it be......
A. Leave your marriage to start a new life.
B. Stay married and cheat.
2007-08-16 11:18:17 · 17 answers · asked by Ophiuchus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Or
C. remember that the person who I was in the good marriage with was the only somebody special for me, and fix whatever was wrong with the person that I commited my live to!
I pick C.
2007-08-16 11:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK I can't imagine this at all. I can imagine someone becoming special to me possibly but even then I would stay committed. That is a choice I made the day I married my husband. I decided then and there that I will not leave or cheat, that I am committed to him only. I guess if those are my only 2 choices because I somehow got so self-centered that I was willing to break my vows (which will never happen but I'm willing to play your game) then I would leave before I ever had an affair. For the simple fact that my husband deserves better. BTW I see my marriage as a commitment to God and a divorce can't change that so I would still be sinning either way, as I said I would only leave to spare my husband the humiliation of having a cheating wife.
2007-08-16 19:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you chose "A", good luck, it's one of the hardest things you'll ever do and that special someone may evaporate while you're doing it.
If you chose "B", that special someone will probably become disappointed and leave just about the time your spouse finds out and also leaves you.
If that special someone is that special then stop the cheating and get on with your divorce. That will limit the amount of hearts you break but be ready to lose all.
You are backing yourself into a corner. The women are right, there should be an option "C".
2007-08-16 18:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a hard choice to make. Most people, especially women, will make up a 3rd choice C. But picking from those two assumes that no matter what you will be doing something with this new person. Might as well do it with a clear conscience and end the current relationship first. Answer would have to be A.
2007-08-16 18:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither. If it was good marriage, then the person I was married too would be the "special person". There would be no reason to leave my marriage or to cheat.
2007-08-16 18:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by Atropabelladonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the two choices are not good. Marriage is sacred.
However, if I had to make a choice, it's A. Because option B is horrible.
2007-08-16 18:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have close friends with out cheating, just avoid any temptations that might lead to cheating, and stay with the good marriage, which is hard to find these days. look at the divorce rate, do you want to be part of that.
2007-08-16 18:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by tljmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating doesn't happen in good marriages.
Cheating happens once your marriage has gone to crap.
What I don't understand is why they don't just end the marriage.
2007-08-16 19:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
C. stay married and don't cheat.
crushes will come and go forever. even when you're with the new person, you'll still have chemistry and attraction with other people.
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2007-08-16 18:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
C. None of the above. I would work on my marriage and then kick myself in the a.ss for being so selfish.
2007-08-16 18:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋