help - sex question?

Question

My husband and i have been married for a year and 2 months and the sex is not there anymore. i want it 24/7 and he wants it once a week. i undestand that he works alot now but there is weeks where he doesnt (work 40hrs.) and still nothing i try everything. im a prostitute in bed for him i'll do everything and anything he knows it. he says sex is not important to him as before by the way he is 33 and im 24. we made a plan of having sex on fridays and saturdays no matter what happen but nothing. i love him dont get me wrong but im to the point of cheating on him cuz i cant take it anymore. please any advice. help

Answer 1

OH girl!!! I was in the exact same boat!!! And believe it or not my old man said the exact same thing to me. I wanted it all the time and he wouldn't give it up I also tried EVERYTHING. I'm a huge flirt and men hit on me constantly therefore, I always get indecent proposals. So, finally I did cheat, I had an affair with a guy at work, (talk about a mistake!). Any way I never told my old man. But a year later we got into a huge fight and decided to call it quits and after deciding who was moving where he asked me if I ever had, so I told him. Well to make a really long story short we worked it out and now he gives it up almost anytime I want it (he's gotten alot better at that). He says finding out I cheated was a "huge wake up call for him" because it really hit him that I really NEEDED SEX MORE, not that I just wanted it. So maybe you should threaten him that you'll go out and find a "boy toy" if he won't take care of business with you. Every time I'd threaten my old man with that he'd say "if you want them go for it!" (totally pissed off) and I'd tell him, "I don't want them, I WANT YOU BUT YOU WON'T GIVE IT UP!" In a nutshell that's what I had to go thru. If you want to know all the details email me and I'll tell you. Hope I helped.

Answer 2

Sex drives change through out your life and it might some day change to where you don't want it as much as him, would you want him to cheat? You just have to compromise and know that it will change again soon and hang in there. Marriage is a roller coaster ride with lots of ups and downs, twists and turns. You are on for the whole ride, you don't get off when you get dizzy or sick because it keeps going until the ride is over and your ride will be over at when you die because marriage is until death do us part.

Answer 3

Wow i wish u were my wife! I want it 24/7 and can't get it either!! Maybe your hubby and I should switch wives!! LOL Just kidding keep trying, talking to him and explaining that you need it! If that don't work tell him this is gonna hurt your marriage, if you don't get it...your gonna go crazy!! Usually it's the other way around, I just beg till I get it but it's getting old! Communication is the key and he should bend a little or someday it may lead to you looking outside the marriage, not necessarily cheating but maybe leaving because if your not happy it's bound to go bad someday!!

Good luck, if you find the secret to getting your partner hornier, let me know!!

Answer 4

maybe he's a little turned off by your prostitute qualities (not being sarcastic). some men don't like to view their wives that way, but are ok with girlfriends who act that way. perhaps he feels that you are too wrapped up in sex and only view him as a sex object. try to find other ways to enjoy him (cuddling, hours of kissing, caressing). perhaps he wants to be the aggressor.

on the other hand, he might be cheating or maybe your libido makes him feel inadequate to please you. do you hound him for sex? that isn't attractive for anyone. to really suss out of issue, try making some changes in your behavior (the only behavior you have control of) and see what difference it makes in his responses. rather than pursuing him so directly, take a week or two to limit your sexual contact to snuggles, hugs, and kisses. don't mention sex or overtly proposition him. if he initiates sex, fine. if this doesn't result in a change, then try something else. nothing turns someone off of a subject more than having someone bring it up everytime they are together.

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Answer 5

No cheating !!!!You said you love him .... Funny love .Please yourself if you have to but you go and cheat you will be running your marriage into the ditch .

Just because your thirsty doesnt mean your husband wants water. If hes good to you and you can communicate with each other then you should be able to tell him that this is what I need from you .But if you take anything from this No Cheating ....Good Luck

Answer 6

Not sure 2 people with such different sex drives can last all that long before enough is enough! Tell him straight up sex is THAT important to you and he can either start putting out or get out

Answer 7

how could he not want it? most guys want it several times per day...maybe he needs to go see a dr. maybe he has a low sex drive and they can give him some meds to perk him up a little for you...

i have the same problem at home, i'm wanting sex all the time but my woman doesn't like sex...it's frustrating and destroying the relationship

Answer 8

Don't worry. Someday he will decide he wants more sex. By then you will have lost your interest completely and not know why. It will be him here complaining that you used to want it all the time but not anymore.

Answer 9

Did you explain to him that even if it isn't as important to him that it IS important to you???
It isn't likely to get better. UNLESS you take charge! Find out what's going on...how can you help him? Can you get him going more often? Are you comfortable enough with him to masturbate in front of him? He might like it...it might get him going...if NOT, at least you got something out of it.
Ask him how you can help him.
Good Luck!

Answer 10

a lot of answers say toys. girl get some and use them in bed with him right there. if that dosent get a rise out of him you might want to talk to your doc about him. it might not be his mind at all! could be physical.