ok i'm pissed help me?

Question

ok and yet again my gf leaves mad we coulnd't have sex... wtf this is makin me soo mad.. i'm 18 and i can't get hard... help me why??? it's not cuz i'm nervious.. we have had sex b4 but lately i just can't get hard... help me.. what can i do this is tearin our relationship appart.. i have never had this problem b4

Answer 1

First of all, you might go to a doctor. There may be a medical reason, nothing serious, just something to look into. I don't know if you drink, but that can be a problem at times. Other than that, and assuming you're not gay of course (not that there's anything wrong with that...lol ala Sienfeld), maybe you're not really that attracted to her.

You know, it's almost typically male-like, and something us guys fight with, like a mental battle, that we have the urge to mate with as many different women as possible. Seems like it takes a mature and settled man to focus on who he really wants to spend his life with.

Of course this all depends on what life style you are choosing. The wild and rowdy lifestyle will surely egg you on to go on to greener pastures. And this is all up to you. But if you care about this person enough, you will pursue a way of staying with her. If not, then perhaps it really is time to move on. It's your call, of course.

Answer 2

Oh man..I'm sorry. It could be several reasons that you aren't able to get an erection. First of all, are you for sure still attracted to her? If you have established that you are, then obviously it is something else. It could be something to do with your health. You may want to consider calling your doctor and making an appointment.

Are you taking any new medications, such as an antidepressant? I have heard that they can have an effect on your sex drive. If you are on some new meds, do some research on the Internet so see if that is one of the side-effects.

Last, it could be from something like stressing over getting an erection for her. Does that make sense? Like, you can't get one because you want to get one. And, you know she will be mad if you don't so it makes it even worse. If you feel that may be the case, talk to her about it and tell her that it makes it difficult to get in the mood when you know that she will be mad if you can't. Hopefully she is the type of person that will understand that it isn't your fault and you just need some time.

Good luck and don't give up ;) Hope some of this helps.

Answer 3

Lot's of things can cause this hopefully temporary set back. Alcohol use some drugs. If you are not doing anything you shouldn't be at 18. Then I say speak to your doctor about the issue. Also remember stress can also do this so if your worried about it because it happened the last time it might be causeing the problem. Try to relax and not think about it at all think good thoughts if you know what I mean. And if your gf is stressing and getting upset as your trying this could be causing you to stress which might not be helping. Best advice I can give you.

Answer 4

I answered a question similar to this for a guy named Joe some time ago. You may be the same guy. There is more going on with you than ED and more information is needed. Since it is not likely to get a complete medical history here, you will need to be evaluated by a doctor. If all is well medically, then you have to look at other issues in your life that are taking place.

If you are the "Joe" that asked this question a few months ago, and I answered under the name "paramedic", you can feel free to email me.

Answer 5

maybe you are in a hurry to have sex . take it slow and take your time. fore play.. always helps. and you may not be attracted to your girl friend as much as you were. first talk with her about it. ask her how she feels. and if you still have problems then yes see a Dr.
stress, and depression will do a lot to people . it causes several problems and yours may be one of the problems.
be patient and communicate with your girl friend ...

Answer 6

it might be that your going through a lot stress. Just think of some fantasys that really turn you on and ask your gf to participate in them. Who knows you might end up trying some really fun new things that turn both of u on a lot.

Answer 7

Just relax,the problem you are experiencing is normally caused by anxiety.You are wound up too tight by the sound of your question.Take your time and make sure you are not worried about your "performance".Go with the flow as they say.

Answer 8

Under pressure, it's more difficult for nature to take it's course. It's not uncommon. Might want to see a doctor who might have a remedy for you. Good luck!

Answer 9

okay first thing you need to look at is stress. The more you stress about this the more likely you will maintain this "problem". Also look into a pill or two it's nothing to be ashamed about.

Answer 10

It could be psychological but equally it could be something wrong with you physically. I would 100% recommend you go see a doc just incase. Last thinkg you want is something going untreated down there.