Hi All :) .. Do you think SILENCE is our best WEAPON , against ARGUMENTS and DISAGREEMENTS? :D?

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Dulcie, I can take a joke.. :) .. But, at that time, your first paragraph, was the only thing I could see... :)
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However, when someone harasses, taunts, baits, or tries to badger you into an arugment, I put up with it only so long... Sometimes if you take and take verbal abuse without much resistance, the abuser feels, like he's got a license to continue berating....
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Psychic Cat, regarding one of my last questions, I cannot do that.. Remember : Copyright? :-)) .. Sorry, (Small joke) on the "humor-part"... :)
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Answer 1

silence is golden, but more are just gilded scraps.
Mostly adorning the hollow heads of pretending geniuses
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they say the best way to hide ignorance is through silence..
but if the person knew this, he must not be that ignorant after all.

since it's passive, it cant be denoted as a weapon. it can actually pacify an argument.. or in some cases(as to silence treatment between couples) it could mean a short truce.. the longer the silence treatment, the more arguments it could insinuate(as to bottling up emotions)
if there is an argument underhand, silence is the time to do reality check.. reasses your ground.. or as a smart person should do, listen more... you'd need time to gather all the facts you need, either to counterattack(since you wanna use it as a weapon) or to understand the other person clearly(which i prefer)
if it's already a disagreement, i bet the weight of the words could turn ugly and hurtful. Silence is necessary for both the mind and the heart to breathe.... by holding up on your words.
besides "a Good time to keep your mouth shut is when you're in deep water"

Answer 2

Silence at a time of disagreement can be a weapon and a very hurtful one.
Communication in any relation is crucial. If one person is not being fair in the way they are arguing, then the other party has every right to advise the person of this and demand a break from the debate.
But to simply give someone 'the silent treatment' will only raise the frustration of that party and not do anything but add to the discord.

Most disagreements (especially in close familial relations) are caused by misunderstandings and can be bridged if both parties are open, honest and fair in their discussions of the situation.

Edit: And despite the tone of this answer, feelings, not logic, are the real things that have to be revealed and cherished in close relationships.

Peace

Answer 3

What I love about your questions Kimberly is that they are a rich blend of multiple factors that seem to link psychology to philosophy and more. For this reason they often do not conform to an either/or response or pattern. Rather they open up a broader, subtler realm that is "both/and" and "it depends upon...". But this is very much like life itself.

So in this case I believe there are occasions when SILENCE is the perfect weapon to use in an argument or disagreement. But there are many disagreements and arguments that should NOT be resolved by silence. There are many instances where silence is mean, underhanded and even cowardly. It resolves nothing, but rather only insults the person you are arguing with. If the argument is inane and not worthy of proper, rigorous debate - or is blind, futile and not resolvable - then SILENCE may be the best weapon to derail and expose the futility. If the silence guides us back to our senses, or to our common ground, or to a higher standpoint, then it is a supreme weapon to call upon in an argument.

But if the argument has a resolvable layer, then the best weapon is clear, precisely expressed TRUTHFULNESS. You are obliged to persevere against ignorance, irrationality, frustrated emotions, and try and get the other party to see clearly the truth that ought to prevail. So isn't the 'truth' - as problematical as that term can be - not the best weapon to employ in an argument or disagreement that is worth it's salt?

Thanks once again for stimulating my mind to think. You add much to my day.

Cheers.

Answer 4

No. I think it makes things worse. I have a few reasons why...

1.My husband becomes silent when we argue, because he doesn't know what to say or does not want to say anything to make it worse. Instead I feel like he is not taking what I am saying seriously and is not listening to me. (He now tells me when he does not know what to say instead of being silent)

2. My parents used it as a punishment when I was"bad" as a child they would not talk to be for hours or even weeks at a time. It is actually a cruel thing to do to someone when they want to resolve an issue. Still to this day if someone gives me the silent treatment I burst into tears, hence the problem with my husband.

I think the best weapon in a argument is to not come in angry. Come in there to solve your problem with a level head. Be adult, be compassionate and listen to the other persons side. You may learn that there was an error in your way as well as thier's.

I try to do that, doesn't always happened but I try. Less feelings being hurt.

Answer 5

Definitely yes. Being resilient to an argument maybe a best weapon because there will a one-sided discourse. After giving all his sides, there will be no more next because the silence you have made may mean yes or a way of avoiding further arguments or discussions. Therefore an end for disagreements.

Answer 6

My first approach would be to introduce humour. Extended arguments & disagreements are never constructive. (Debate is different.) My second "weapon" would be silence. (Not sulking!) A fire won't burn without fuel. Depending on the person/s involved, this is a choice. I just won't participate. If someone refuses to run out of steam, (which is unusual), in their house, I leave. In my house, I open the door & tell them (with a smile) to come back when they're feeling less like themselves.

Edit: In arguments & disagreements, everyone believes they're "right." That is why they occurr. To "p*** someone off with scarcasm accomplishes nothing.

Answer 7

I have a boss who acts like he's still in high school. Always making irrational comments and trying to criminalize every action, takes it way to far. He argued once that 90 percent of the world had false teeth and they were better than real teeth. He defended it vehemently and then pouted all day when we laughed at him. I don't know how to argue with that. I vote for silence and distance.

Answer 8

People can disagree about all sorts of things without arguing. The best weapon against arguments is not to argue. Silence is one way of doing that. The important thing is to never ever argue with anybody about anything. Get up and leave if you have to, but avoid arguments like poison. Nobody ever won an argument.

Answer 9

I put up with a co-workers constant complaining for 10 years, and tried to avoid saying anything because she loved to argue. Last week, I finally had enough, and yelled LOUDER and told her I do not want to hear anything OTHER THAN WORK, ever again from her. Now she argues and disagrees with others. But NOT me. So avoid arguing and disagreeing if you can. But if you cannot, make sure you FINISH the disagreement!!

Answer 10

Actions speaks louder than words and the pen is mightier than the sword. One just have to know when to walk away when an argument gets out of hand. We can't resolve anything when we allow reckless emotions to take over the conversation. It's a lose/lose situation.