Oh boy, what a mess I've gotten myself into. If you answer, can you be nice?

Question

I'm 36 and engaged to be married next year.

The problem is that I've fallen in love with an 18 year old intern from work. I broke my arm so this intern had to help me do stuff. She's smart for her age and makes me laugh like I never have. Although we've never done anything physical, she's obviously into me too. What to do, what to do?

Answer 1

Well......all I can say is go with your heart. But......I think if u decide to go with the other girl then, first break things of with ur G/F. Cause if you cheat on her, it will make things 100 times worse, so the best thing to do is be honest with her!!!! Good luck & follow your heart......thats all u can do!

Answer 2

If you're engaged to be with another woman and not the intern.. stick with the woman you're suppose to marry. If you care about the 18 year old girl know that if you end it with the woman you love for her, you're going to be vulnerable. Your vulnerability will then make the 18 year old vulnerable. I'm actually 17 and have a relationship with a 27 year old.. well.. we're not dating.. we're waiting for each other.. so i believe that the love can be there. This man though was actually married and divorced. We've known each other for 3 years now ( i know.. weird story), but I would speak to him everday throughout his divorce and sturggle. It hurt OUR relationship. So think about both the women. Sometimes i personally feel like I should've never gotten involved with him for his sake as well. So think before you act and think loonngg and hard. Wake up! You LOVE the woman you're with now, don't you? Otherwise, you wouldnt be engaged. Do what you feel is the right thing to do. I wish you much luck and happiness!

EDIT:

Think about how you'd feel if you were to lose your fiance. If you feel you'll be fine, then break up with her and go for the 18 yeard old.

Answer 3

Remember, there is no turning back, so you need to see if you´re really in love with this 18 year old.

Does your fiance cook and clean, and was she there when you broke your arm? Has she been there through your good and bad times?

Now, ask yourself this about this 18 year old you´re in love with? What will life be like with her? Will she do the same for you?

You need to call off your wedding to the person you´re engaged to so that she can get on with her life-sorry, I cannot be nice, she deserves someone other than a 36 year old old fart that likes 18 year old girls. I give you and the 18 year old 1 year tops.

Answer 4

You raise two issues. First, re your pending marriage. If you feel you are in love with someone other than your fiance' then consider whether you want to break off the engagement right now. It's not fair to you or her to continue a "loving" relationship when you feel you are in love with another woman.
As for your intern, she certainly sounds interesting. Remember this, at 18 she hasn't reached her full growth potential, either physically or mentally. As great and wonderful as she is, seriously consider how she will be when she's 36 (and you're 54). I have a good friend happily married for 20 years to a woman 22 years younger than he. Relationships break up for any number of reasons, age being only one of them. It wasn't age that got between you and your fiance', merely another woman. You choices are yours to make. Good luck.

Answer 5

She is 18 grandpa and do you really think she is worth loosing what you have with your fiancee. Are you in love or just infatuaded by her Remember you are more mature and psychologically been there and have experienced stuff. But this 18 year old is barely coming around to knowing what she wants. So you may later regret being with a young adult, rather than your fiancee who surely loves the **** out of you and can be way better. According to psychology young people who get together tend to split b/c they grow there separate ways and want to have fun. So I see you with her all old and sour b/c she is partying @ 25. You are into her b/c she is young and hip of course
So your best bet is to screw her and control or let your feelings fizzle for her and have a good time. She may even be down for an affair. But be careful and dont let her gold digg you either or give her everything.
On the other hand evaluate your fiancee and think if you really want to loose her for a lil bay-bee. You may regret leaving her and be alone on the long run. So be comfortable with what you have. And if this lil chick still tickles your pickle!! Then like I said lay down the terms and snap out your love state of mind for her. So screw her and be a dog and think with your dick and dont get whooped!! :}

Answer 6

speaking as a woman, I think you are so typical of what is wrong with men. That having been said, it's nice that you are wondering about it without having done anything yet. You haven't done anything yet, right? You really need to settle this issue before you get married, if you get married. Your fiance doesn't need to know about this unless you act on your feelings for the 18 year old. Let's face it, we all have inappropriate feelings from time to time. Whether or not we act on those feelings is what makes us adults or children with no restraint. Good Luck & Blessings

Answer 7

A lot of people fall hard for the person who helps or saves them. She saw you when you were pretty vulnerable and was able to help with the broken arm.
Has your fiancee seen you vulnerable? Is she the one you think of growing old with?
18 is pretty young. Not saying too young, but she needs more life experience. 36 year olds, just by doing the math, have had twice the experience in life.
Relationships are weird that way. You don't know who in a crowd will connect with you.

Answer 8

Call off the wedding and break up with ur current girl and bang the 18 yr old!! Thats what you wanna do. Sad thing is after you get the youngster out of ur system or the youngster dumps you , you'll be crawlin back to your current woman and she will think you are a total douche bag and by then will have probably found herself a new better man.....but hey, good luck with that:)

Answer 9

Don't get married.
Honestly, she's 18, long term you aren't going to have much in common. She still needs to grow up and experience things. What's more important a fling with a girl young enough to be your daughter or a happy marriage with a woman you cared enough about to propose. If I were you, I'd be a man and find a new job to get away from the temptation.

Answer 10

That is a problem. But you are 36. She's still a kid. She may be smart, and may be a lot of fun if ou were to step beyond the line.

My advice is, hold back. Don't step ove those boundaries. You'll get nothing but the crap end of the stick! and you'll get your heart broken as well as,and more importantly, your fiance's heart!

Don;t go there. You'll be better off. Tell this chick to back off.

Answer 11

Well if you are in love with someone else you shouldn't marry the girl you are engaged to. Also this 18 year old may be into you but she probably won't want to be with you forever. She may just want a fling.