In my experience, it's usually the woman who gives up her career, social life, friends, etc. to take care of the family, while most times the man still acts like he is single and does whatever the hell he wants.
2007-08-16 09:51:27 · 27 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women probably do but it comes more natural for them as we are caretakers by nature.
Men however feel like they sacrifice more because its so PAINFUL for their sacrifices and they link it to losing their identity while we link our sacrifices to creating our identity.
2007-08-16 09:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by kittycat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a history of poor relationships. What you're talking about is individual attitude. If you feel you are sacrificing to maintain a relationship, then get out of the relationship. Relationships should be fun and mutually enjoyable. Sacrifice shouldn't be a word in the vocabulary of a good relationship. What an outsider may view as "sacrifice" may be viewed by the person doing it as an act of love. But it is how you feel that is important, and if you feel you are "sacrificing" , I'm not suggesting there is anything wrong with that feeling, only that such feelings are not helpful to a relationship and should be dealt with or the relationship should be abandoned.
2007-08-16 09:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its different in every single relationship.
In my marriage we both make sacrifices. My husband works hard so that i dont have to work, and so that he can afford our the house and put me through college, though i plan on never working, so that i can have something to fall back on. I sacrifice going out shopping (like a lot of my friends do) and stay at home so that we can save money, and he can feel comfortable when he gets home from work. He also goes to school full time as well as me, so we sacrifice some of our time together so that he can keep moving up in his career.
2007-08-16 09:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, but do not agree with this because it depends in what perspective we see this. Men do give up a lot as well, and the way I see this it is not a sacrifice if I give up a life of my own to have a life with a husband and my own children. A lot of men also give up their own lives, meaning they move away from their area to be with the woman they love. In a good relationship these things would not even be a point of discussion. No one among us is forced at gunpoint to make sacrifices--it is all a matter of free will. I am the mother of 2(now grown) children, and my husband died a while back---I never felt that I sacrificed and he didn't, even though I left my country to be with him, because I am from Europe.
2007-08-16 10:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think in most relationships it is the woman who make the most sacrifices but I think it is a woman's nature to be more apt to put her spouse and her children first before herself.
Women are just more nurturing. There are alot of men today that take on alot more responsibility and do put in alot of efforts to parenting issues and household chores. I think that is great. They seem more bonded with their children and appreciate the efforts their spouse does make when the female holds down a full time job, is a mother, and still is able to take care of household responsibilities.
2007-08-16 10:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In a balanced relationship - both partners sacrifice to some extent.
However, biologically, only women can get kids.
So, it is slightly more logical that they sacrifice a bit more, esp. career wise.
As to social life / friends - if you are asked (as a woman) to give that up - you need to rethink that relationship.
Also, a good man takes heed of his partner, and doesn`t just do 'whatever the hell he wants'
2007-08-16 09:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by U_S_S_Enterprise 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Interestingly, a study on age gap relationships from http://www.beep.com/memberdateien/members/agegap/agegap.htm indicated that cases in which the wife was older than the husband showed a higher than usual proportion of good adjustments, sacrifice themselves more as did those in which the husband was eight or more years older. Yet these same marriages showed also the highest proportion of poor adjustments and sacrifices.
2007-08-16 09:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by bennie l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the personalities of the individuals. I know someone whose husband does chores, takes care of the kids when he's home, makes lunches and all sorts of stuff most guys don't even dream of. So I guess it all depends. I would say in general though that women do more of the "home" things. Why do we do this? I think it's just how we were raised.
2007-08-16 10:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both should be of service to the other - if your man is acting as you described above then he is immature and selfish - he hasn't learned how to put someone else's needs in front of his own - if you aren't married to this guy - move on and look for someone that is ready for a mature relationship. If you are married then seek some counseling to help you deal with his immaturity and find a better way to respond to it. You can't change him, but you CAN change how you look at things and how you respond to them.
2007-08-16 09:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men did back in the day,,,now its women,,,i wanna live in the 50's...actually i have the best hubby ever,he has made so many sacrifices,,,hes a real man!,,,they are hard to find these days i know!!!I am blessed!
2007-08-16 09:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Inou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋