we got along great but im weary about whether to keep talking to him,he doesnt live in the same state and he didnt ask for any personal info.... should i trust him????
2007-08-16 08:55:49 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hell no!
2007-08-16 09:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Buttafli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him until he gives you reason not to. Don't tell him anything too personal about yourself. Your screen name, your age, and the general area you live... as in the state. If he wants to meet you, you should set up a public meeting. Several friends, meeting in a mall that's half an hour or more from your home, for lunch.
They say that you can't be too careful, but you have to trust people to a certain extent, or you may miss out on some great experiences. Don't be reckless, and don't be too trusting, but remember that you met him on the internet, so he could be just like you. What were your motivations?
Keep copies of all of the correspondence, and if you start to feel like he's getting to a point where you feel uncomfortable, notify someone right away. If he is a professional con-man or a sexual predator, then you have nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about by feeling duped by him. Hind-sight is always 20/20, but he’s a pro. The most important thing is your safety and well being.
Good luck!
2007-08-16 16:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Becka Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to keep talking to this guy. It also depends on how old you are verses how old he is. If you wanted to meet at some point I would pick a place half way between where you live and where he lives and I'd bring a friend with me. Meet in a public place and don't leave that place with him, even after you meet him and find he's the greatest thing since sliced bread! Get to know all about him. Maybe ask to speak to his parents as well in a phone call. Do not give him your phone number! Do not give him any personal information about you. There are ways for the bad guys to find you with the littlest information. Be very careful. I have had friends that met someone on line and they've gotten married. So not all guys are after only one thing. There are some good ones out there. I think also that I would maybe treat this like a resume and ask for some references as well.
2007-08-16 16:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Val you live in a huge country with lots of rapist etc.I live in one which is very small and everybody knows evrybody.I'll tell u a lil secret I met a guy I spoke to on the internet several times in Grenada a very very small country and he attends the same college as I do.hmm u see he was very sweet really really nice he was teh perfect guy the best guy ever in 3 weeks he changed he turned out to be a jerk.Tht is the way they are always like tht sweet at 1st but they are either a beast or a rapist or a heartbreaker so nope don't meet him and cut off all links with him honey they always hurt you one way or the other physically or emotionally.
2007-08-16 16:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is ultimately up to you to decided if it is worth the time and effort to pursue a relationship with this man. I may be getting ahead of myself but, are you willing to visit long distances, possible relocating to his area. On the flip side is he willing to do the same? What are the implications of such a move for you personally and professionally? It is always about having good communication. If you have concerns or questions don't be afraid to ask him. If he is unwilling to answer your questions maybe he is not ready to commit at the same level you are. If he is cryptic when answering perhaps he is lying or hiding something. If so, then walk away and look someplace else. Just remember there are 6 billion people on the planet and at least half of them are men. He is just one in 3 billion. I think you have a pretty good chance of finding someone else to have a realtionship with with more noble intentions.
2007-08-16 16:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by MikeN7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can trust him as long as he continues to not ask for personal info.
He could have easily researched you, and said a state you don't live in to throw you off, so you'd feel more relaxed, and more likely to let personal information slip out.
I won't even go into how he could fake the picture.
Bottom line, be careful, and if you decide you want to meet him, (although I advise against it) make it a very public place and tell people where you are going and when you expect to be back.
2007-08-16 15:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mackenzie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you really know that is his picture he might be some old 75 year old man with a picture of his great Grandson. If he isn't asking for personal information and is not trying to get you to meet him somewhere , he may alright. Just don't let him know where you live and your telephone number.
Just talking to him on the net is harmless if that is as far as he goes and doesn't start trying to get your picture or your address. Just talking to him is harmless just be sure and don't start giving him much information if start asking just block him from your email address.
2007-08-16 16:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
val,
even if you think this guy may be the sweet, sensible guy that you've always been searching for, NEVER trust anyone on the Internet even if you think he's the one. maybe you two should get together sometime, and meet for lunch or something. take it slow and really get to know the guy before you make a move.
2007-08-16 16:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by Drue C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you can never trust anyone over the internet...he could seem like the nicest guy and yea he hasnt asked you for any personal info but he could still be a threat to you....its not good to trust someone you dont know on the net
2007-08-16 16:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by the nunes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people over the internet always seem sweet they want to sweet talk u into something u will regret for the rest of ur life u shouldnt really trust n e 1 over the internet u dont knw what they might do to u dont trust him!!
2007-08-16 16:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO... never trust anyone u meet on the Internet and never ever give away personal info...u dont really now who this guy is, what he has done, or even what he is capable of doing...so for ur own safety dont do anything STUPID!!!
2007-08-16 18:13:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋