i have hatred problems?

Question

my name is joe geil im 15 years old and im a black belf from the american acadamy of martial arts tia jitsu i never understood my anger problems its on so many different levels i got into a fight one time and broke a guys arm and leg and got exspelled from every school in my county now i have to drive a hour away from my house to go to my school with 56 people in the whole school but their i knocked a guys jaw out of place for hitting on my girl and i just dont understand i had a great childhood and im a nice funny guy and have tons of friends but i just have a split personality this other side of me that just destroys when i get angry and being a black belt dosent help because i know all these things to hurt people and i dont get pissed exstremely easy but when i do i just cant controle myself can somebody tell me what my problem is

Answer 1

I'm not trying to be offensive, so please don't take this the wrong way, but they DO have meds for that. Trust me, I know, I have to take them. But anyways, instead of venting your anger out at other people, whenever somebody pisses you off just imagine the most comical thing you could think of that person. (like imagining them in their underwear, but I personally dont see that as pleasant) so instead of taking it out on someone, just laugh about it. It makes things alot easier.

Answer 2

Hey, Joe, hatred's not your problem. ANGER is. You desperately need anger management training and lots of it. In some ways you sound like my son - slow to anger, but when he does - watch out! The difference is that my son doesn't hit people. But I just picked up a 2 lb. box of plaster for him - the walls in his apartment look likes Swiss Cheese. I'm amazed that his computer still works, that thing has taken a beating (or ten!) - the casing is completely gone, CD drive hanging out the front; floppy drive gone, USB ports hanging.... you get the picture.

He's gone to anger management a couple of times, but never completed the course once. I'll be badgering him into going again when it starts up again in September.

You might also benefit from some other type of therapy, or even medication. If there is a mental health clinic in your area, see if your parents will take you there. They might even offer anger management courses.

But I guess the first step will be talking to your parents. Hopefully they will be thrilled (and proud) that you are trying to do something about this problem. If your parents are not the type that can be approached - and I don't mean just because you'll be embarrassed, talk to your school counsellor. The counsellor should know of services in your area, or at least know how to find out that information.

If embarassment is the only thing stopping you from talking to your parents, bite the bullet and talk to them, Joe. Once you get it over with it won't seem so bad. Tell them you want to get help, that you want to learn how to get this anger under control before it gets too late. Tell them you don't want to live this way anymore. Tell them you need their help and support.

Good luck, Kiddo. ;-)

Answer 3

The things is, you CAN control yourself, you just think you can;t. Everyone is control of their actions and anger and hatred, they just dont see it. Tell yourself this before you do something out of control, "Does this person really deserve to be hurt? No. Will it feel good hurting this person? No. Will the consequenses be good? No. Isn't it much easier to make a clever retort and walk away proud of yourself? Yes. So, should I just be sellfish and only think about myself? No. Will people like me any more if I hurt this person? No. What good will come out of it? Nothing. Then why do it?

Good Luck!

Answer 4

You need help from a professional. That doesn't mean you're crazy, it's actually very common to talk to a professional to discuss your problems. It's something you have to do in person, with someone who will take time to get to know you and understand you better. There is counseling available, i think for no cost. You should ask a school where you don't attend (call them on your cell). Or maybe a county health care clinic. Look online. Give it a shot.

Answer 5

hmm... I'd love to hire you to break some jaws. too bad I'm broke... actually I'd like to break some jaws myself, but I'd rather not get in trouble with the law. These days are tough times to live in. There are plenty of things to be angry about. This world is very screwed up. The problem is that letting your anger get out of control will not help the situation at all.

Answer 6

Friend, all physical disciplines transfer itself to your emotional being. I do not know which schools you went to do martial arts, but a good school always works on your meditation. Another factor is how your house environment is. Think about these things. A man is not the one who controls from the outside in but from inside out. Control is the ultimate POWER.

Answer 7

who gives a crap if you have a black belt...you need you're *** kicked just to show that someone can. how do you know that that kid you hit in the jaw couldn't kick you butt. its simple kid you're saying you have no control. yes you do... you simply walk away.. it take more of a man to do that. if you fight like you say you do leave that in the ring. there is more honor in walking away and controlling youre self than there is picking on some weak kid. my opinion is you need youre *** kicked once and then you would see. youre a bully that only worrys about what other people think. think about youreself!!

Answer 8

well dude you don't have anger issues. you just had issues on controlling yourself. the fact is that i don't you are a black belt because the first thing they teach is self-discipline. you don't got it. you got alot to learn. and stop beating up kids that have no fighting experince because if you go to court the judge will consider you a weapon and sentence you harshly. and don't list to these people its not anger. they're not on a common sense level.

Answer 9

You need to speak to someone you believe in whether it be a priest, guardian or someone you trust, that can help you find another way to channel you anger, into a more healthy way that is not causing you to get kicked out of school or cause others bodily harm.

Answer 10

You have made a big step by admitting you have a problem. I suggest you go to an anger management class or to a mental health organization for help with this. Good luck and God Bless you.