Everytime she talks to them, she changes her mind. She's even starting to change her values for what her friends say and this affecting our relationship because what at the begining was wrong for her and I agreed on that now it is not that wrong.
She has told me lies and when I find out, she says she's just not telling me everything.
She has told me that I have told her lies and I have to mature when I ask her what she exactly means she can't answer.
I suspected of her friends' influence and last week my suspects were proven.
I know it is up to her to follow her friends or not. But she has been trough many hard things lately and she's not stable at all now and I've been patience but I'm through with this.
I haven't done anything, I just try to stay away form her friends and be polite but not friendly when they're around.
Please Jennifer J, give me a hand on this, thanks.
2007-08-16 07:15:40 · 8 answers · asked by Nraf 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ask her if she should trust her own feelings, or what her friends are telling her.
2007-08-16 07:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by back from the dead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 08:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me she based her security on her friends. Maybe this is momentary, and you can show her that u're willing to be there and be her support. Being patient at this moment is the best thing you can do. As time goes on, observe if she still based her security on her friends or not. When she's better you can talk to her about this. I dont think it's necessarily good that she based her beliefs and values on her friends'. Hopefully she would come back to her own reasoning and find her own values.
2007-08-16 07:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by Emo-c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but you could waste an awful lot of emotional energy on somebody like that. You could wait and wait for her to stabilise and it could be all in vain. She obviously doesn't believe in her own opinions and is looking outward for people to tell her what's true and what isn't. Her (possibly) well meaning freinds have monopolised her lack of personal convictions and are possibly living their lives out vicariously through her.
You should tell her what you believe about her friends and what you would prefer. If she is unsympathetic, you should reconsider your relationship.
Hope all goes well.
2007-08-16 07:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by tuthutop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best idea is to stand back for awhile.
If things are not working, then pushing and pulling at each other is not going to accomplish anything.
Let her have space.
Take some time out for yourself to re assess what you want to be happening in your life.
Don't defend the suffering.
2007-08-16 12:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with a girl just like that... I learned a lot about what I don't want in a woman.
Left her and promised myself that I'd never date another one like her. But, to each his own. If you like that kind of girl, just stick with it. There's nothing you can do to change her.
2007-08-16 07:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new girlfriend, one that can think for herself.
2007-08-16 07:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rob L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get rid if her.
2007-08-16 07:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋