Most of my friends live a distance away and I would just like a femail friend to have a coffee or go to the cinema etc. with now and again. As I still work and I dont want to go to clubs etc. What to do? Anyone else have this problem?
2007-08-16 06:56:00 · 18 answers · asked by Yoda 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I live in East London. All my neighbours are professional people and work every day. My job is solitary and I am not a W.I. type of person and dont go to church. I have time during the day as most but not all of my work is done in the evenings. Difficult isn't it?
2007-08-16 11:17:34 · update #1
Jovi Freak I am a rock music photographer so I take pics mainly at night and work on them and do admin daytime. I do go to the shops and chat to people but everyone is so busy and most people who are at home during the day here are young women with children.At the gym I talk to people also, but they are mainly bouncers pumping up their muscles. Dont you feel sorry for me?!! Never mind I can always talk to you guys and as I said I do have lots of friends, just no-one round the corner
2007-08-17 04:58:29 · update #2
Where have u moved to hun? If you are in my neighbourhood then you are more than welcome to come round for coffee
2007-08-16 07:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Indeed! I moved here three years ago, to be with my daughter who is ill. I have attended churches here, I have gont to city functions and so on. Still, I feel like the "new kid on the block."
I moved from a very large town to this very small rural city. Now, I say very small...next to where I moved from, it is! Actually, it is not such a small town. But, in the minds of those born here, if you were not reared here...you are just an outsider!
The one place I thought I would find new friends were the local churches, plus, I needed a new church home. I am still looking! Finding a friend? Well, I guess that might happen if I live here long enough to be accepted. If not, I'll keep making treks back to my old hometown and experience a little more friendliness.
I wish you the best as I know exactly how it feels to be new and alone!
2007-08-16 15:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Difficult to advise you due to lack of detail, but if you're in a rural area in the UK you couldn't do better than to join your local W.I. - there are all sorts of activities, and it's a great way to meet people. If you're in a town in the UK, the Townswomens' Guild is similarly useful. Other ideas would be to join an evening class of some kind, maybe a choir, or a society such as gardening, handicraft, drama etc. Your local library or council website should have details of all these activities in your area. Good luck! P.S. After reading your extra details: as above, but look for daytime classes and clubs - they do exist! And don't write off the Townswomens' Guild -all sorts of people join - there isn't a 'type'!
2007-08-16 14:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by mad 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I joined a reading group at the local library.
They only met once a month but in time I met three really good friends from the group - we meet up once every ten days or so for coffee - but we are on the telephone to each other more or less every day.
We have only known each other for seven or eight months but it feels like forever!
Good luck - remember there are as many people out there looking for friends as have already found as many as they need!
2007-08-16 14:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
they do say that taking up an evening class is a good idea, going to the launderette, library or even the supermarket regularly could bring forth a 'hello' from people - its difficult i know but yu will have to get out there amongst it all to get to know people. I would steer clear of pubs and clubs unless you have someone to go with. good luck. it may also be a good idea to edit the question including your whereabouts as there appear to be a few 'answerer' who would be happy to chat/email -
2007-08-16 14:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by tkf57 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you go out for walks or to the stores nearby, just start talking to people. Go out and sit in the park and talk to people walking their dogs or sitting their grandkids...ask them about the area. Tell them that your special interest includes (whatever--maybe reading) and ask them where the closest place to do that would be (for reading of course ask about the closest library).
When you have met a person for the second or third time and you seem to get along, ask them if they would go for coffee with you to just talk. Tell them that you are looking for a female friend close by and that you want to get to know them better.
I am sure you know where to take it from there.
But the important thing is to always greet people with a smile and to look interested when you start talking. You know how to do the rest.
2007-08-16 16:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go out!
Go to the cinema, go to the swimming baths, go to a coffee bar. You will not meet anyone sitting on that compute.
The people you want to meet are all out there doing the things you want to do.
2007-08-17 06:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jadore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you plan on an afternoon tea or BBQ and invite the neighbors closest to you. You decide how many you can handle, or if you want to invite the whole block. Let the invitation state that it's a Getting To Know My Neighbors type of party. Keep it simple. I'll just bet some of your neighbors don't even know their neighbors and you'll all have fun getting to know one another.
2007-08-16 15:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lady G 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get on the web and go to a local chat room. yes i have had the same problem.
2007-08-16 14:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by robert2020 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a coffee and come on this site, there are plenty of friendly folk on here.
2007-08-16 15:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could g to the local library. They have notices of local groups.
2007-08-17 02:55:45 · answer #11 · answered by Frankie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋