Am I wasting time?

Question

Ok, I'm 25yrs old and since I was 16 I've been working and worrying about school only. I've only had 2 real boyfriends. The first one cause my mother made to, and the second one cause I fell in love with him and I haven't yet to fall out of it. After 7yrs he was easily to move on to whatever chick laid in his bed (it didn't matter how long he's met her) and it's so difficult to find a guy. I work from 7-4 and I'm trying to finish my last degree so I go to school from 4-11, weekends, well I do homework and all. Did I loose fun time? and how can I get my ex to leave me alone, he knows I still care for him and he just won't let go I've tried just about everything.

I feel as if I haven't done much in my life. And please don't criticize my grammar and sentence structure let me be just answer the question if not move on to another one please.

Answer 1

It sounds like you have enough on your plate with working, going to school, and doing homework. You can only do so much. When you have finished school, you can have a social life for fun, and perhaps meet someone new that way or in your fab. new job. As for your "ex," break all ties with him. You are risking STD's if he is sleeping with others. He only wants to use you. You deserve better. There will be a better life for you eventually. Don't lose sight of your goals.

Answer 2

It sounds as if you really have your hands full , I know going to school and working also leaves little time for personal enjoyment . As long as your ex can detect that you still like him he will continue to try and take advantage of you . If you really want to be rid of him just completely cut him off and refuse to even discuss having a relationship with him . If he calls hang up , if he stops by close the door in his face or don't answer , basically make your self as inaccessible as possible. It sure sounds like you need some measure of fun time even if it's infrequently . Try and work on an idea to have some fun that won't include going somewhere you would expect to run into your ex and cut loose and have some fun . That should help you maintain all the strain your under . Good luck on this I can imagine how difficult it must be for you : )

Answer 3

You have not gone this far with your education for nothing.... I would finish my degree first before I would even worry about dating. However if you happen to meet someone in the mean time then go for it. Maybe your ex has realized what he has lost and wants it back. Or he is just a player. Be honest with him just tell him what you want from him to leave you alone or patch things up whatever it is. GOOD LUCK your only 25 you will find someone.

Answer 4

Well why don't you try and go out with someone you are studying with, at first you would be able to study together and who knows maybe become friends.
As for your boyfriend simply ignore him, or even try letting him see you with someone else. Being a man I can tell you this, if you go up to him and tell him straight to his face that you do not care about him anymore, he would laug but afterwards would think about it, if he realy cares for you he will leave the other girls and get back to you, if he doesn't then he will leave you alone and get on with his business.

What is more important for you, your studies or your relationship with your exboyriend. My advice is think of your future, you will never know when real love comes untill it hits you. Finish your studies and think of your future you still have a long life ahead of you.

Answer 5

I have the same problem. I'm 23 years old (also I'm a man), and until know I only studied for school and recently I'm employed at a firm. I've finished 2 Colleges at my hometown University. I didn't party so much, but I had a goal. Girlfriends so and so (because I didn't had time for it, who knows maybe now I'll have). By the way, if you want you can email me, and we could talk about our situation and maybe we could find others like us. People that KNOW WHAT THEY WANT :)). NOT like all the LOSERS, who are partying until they pass out. This doesn't mean that I don't like to party, but in due time and with moderation. Because you get tiered of all this WASTE of TIME, and at 40 you think What I want in life? (but then is to late).

Answer 6

Bless you Eris.
You need some rest and relaxation. In fact you need, let me say, TWO kinds of rest:
*] Rest from work and schooling
*] Rest from your very self.

Back to your question:
1) 'Did I loose fun time' No, you didn't. You didn't waste your time as many do. You didn't strive for 'poor' fun. You are serious, respectable, and you are after something great, which you will get, God willing.
2)
Before talking about the romantic side in your life, didn't you notice your words. They were as if a scientist stating facts and figures. You were wonderfully rational.
Back to
2) That boyfriend of yours: 'he knows I still care for him' as long as he knows it, he won't leave you alone.
He is quite sure of you. You are to him A HOME HAVING A MOTHER WHOSE JOB IS TO GIVE AND CARE. He does here and there having fun, mere cheap, insincere, groundless fun.
STOP caring for him. He knows that you are more powerful when your mind talks. He will leave you when he feels this.
3) Hold on! Go on with your work and studies. Fun is sure to come. It will be really real fun, believe me, my good, dear friend.
God bless you and us all.

Answer 7

It sounds like you have come down with the virus called "LIFE EXPERIENCE".

It sounds like you are a smart and intelligent young women, that has great work ethics and morals. I wish more young people today thought like you did. My advise is to forget about your ex, and to move on. I think you need to find time to interact with people of your on age but continue to get your education , it is very important. Remember everybody goes through ups and downs, that is part of life, hopefully you can learn from it, also til the day you die you will never stop learning. Stay strong and try to enjoy your life, it goes by so fast . God Bless!!!

Answer 8

No you didn't waste your time. Keep concentrating on your Degree. When you get it ,then go out and Party or go on a Vacation.
Stay focused.
As to your boyfriend;I know it is nice to have a man around, but who needs a cheating one?
When the time is right you will find your Soul-mate.
Take care and don't worry.

Answer 9

I think you sound like a very bright young woman who has a good head on her shoulders. I sorry your ex seems to be the one to have lost out.

when you are finished with your degree and have something to show for all of your hard work.

What will he have? Maybe just another notch in his belt. Maybe a STD, or maybe just his regret for letting a good girl like you get away.
When he is wallowing in his own misery you my dear will be living life to the fullest.

Don't let him get you down, hold your head high and be proud of the responsible woman you are.

There will be plenty of play time in life and it is more enjoyable when you feel like you have done something to earn it.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Finish school, dump the loser, and make sure you can take care of yourself in the manner to which you will become accustomed. Who needs a man that is a cheater? No one. Move to a different place, change your phone number, and make sure you don't go looking for him to mess up all that you will have done to avoid him.