She is economically dependent on him and even worse, she is not sure if he does but she suspects! Sounds like mad does'nt it? If it is true how to handle this without breaking the marriage?
2007-08-16 06:13:27 · 9 answers · asked by ramsh67 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can she even think about saving her marriage or staying with a man who is abusing her daughter? She will manage without him, and get lots of financial help to do so. She needs to contact social services and let them investigate the whole thing. They will not know who tipped them off, she or you can do it confidentially.
Please don't waste time asking questions in here, think of that poor little girl and do something to help her!!!
2007-08-16 06:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mum&wife 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
take her to the doctor and get a professional opinion before starting anything. if the doctor suspects anything, have them make a note in her file. then go to the local child protection office, and request an investigation. (but if the doctor thinks the child is being abused in any way, it's his duty to make the call.) social services can give the mother options, such as a domestic abuse shelter while they counsel her and the child, and help her get on her feet. there are rules, and she has to follow the rules. also, her husband cannot contact her while she is there, and will help her file for divorce. if she cannot afford to leave, have her look into this. domestic abuse is domestic abuse, and the point is that she should not allow her child to be put through this. if she suspects it and does nothing, then she could lose the child. if she allows it to continue, the courts see her no better than he, and they will take the steps to remove the child from the home. after that, she's on her own in finding a way out. good luck!
2007-08-20 05:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is only in the marriage for financial reasons...Obviously there is no trust. What does the little girl have to say? How does she act when the husband is around? Do you suspect there is abuse? Doesn't sound like the wife will do anything about it even if he abused the child in front of her. What are you going to do for the child? Me? I'd flat out ask the husband.
2007-08-16 06:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is and she can't leave, does that mean she won't send him to jail but continue to live with a predator?
If thats the case, tell her to keep her stupid head in the sand.
If she plans on doing something about it if it is true then she needs to 1) ask her daughter and let her daughter know that its NO OK for anyone to touch you down there!!!! and that she WON'T be in trouble for telling
2) take her to a doctor and have them look at her.
3) do not leave her and the husband alone EVER!!!!
2007-08-16 06:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I as a mother could never allow anyone to put there hands on my child. It would not matter to me if i had to go to a shelter at least i would know my baby was not being abused. God gave you that gift to protect for him. You should not allow any harm if at all possible to come to this child. It is your responsibility to protect that 3yr old. She can't protect herself. GET A BACK BONE FOR YOUR BABY OR SHE WILL GROW UP AND BLAME YOU FOR LETTING IT HAPPEN.
2007-08-16 06:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's true, who cares about the marriage? she can always leave. there are many places that can give her assistance. have her put some camera's up and video tape him. that's the only way to know for sure.
2007-08-16 06:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should arrest them both and put them in a cell together. Or better yet, have them give he up because she'd be better off.
If he's doing it and she suspects but does nothing about it, than she's just as bad.
So as long as he "economically" supports her, she's willing to let him do this?
Mom of the year!
2007-08-16 06:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by C 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you mean sexual abuse, she should take the child immediately to a doctor to be examined. And if he is, why in h3ll would she want to stay with him!!!
2007-08-16 06:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have her take the girl to the doctor...check everything...they have rape kits at the office, too...so they can check! Good Luck!
2007-08-16 06:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋