The last time I had an orgasm while having sex was when I was 19 since then I have pushed out 3 kids and well I have not had an orgasm since. Have I stretched out my junk and is there a solution for it?
2007-08-16 05:17:28 · 12 answers · asked by Liz 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm 29 and well I actually have 2 kids gave birth to the third at 6months. But the fact is that I enjoy having sex with my husband but he feels like he's the one doing something wrong. But I have to fake orgasms just so he feels better. I hate the fact that I can't have an orgasm. And I wish there is something i could do to remedy this cuz they feel soooo good.
2007-08-16 05:39:02 · update #1
I feel nothing from the beginning to the end.
2007-08-16 10:42:25 · update #2
I know that child birth changes your dimensions and shape but I really don't think that you are having troubles with having orgasms because you are too stretched from having children. If you don't have a serious problem like prolapse or incontinance or nerve damage than you are probably are good there and you don't have to worry. If you keep exercising your vaginal muscles than that is all good. Your gynecologist would have told you if she saw anything wrong for real.
Just having a penis moving around in your vagina really does Not do much uaually for Most women for real. Maybe you just need to have your clitoris and lips touched more when you are having sex? Fingers, oral, moving positions and taking turns setting the pace.. You may want go with what you do when you masturbate. There is nothing wrong with it when you are having sex. Or with him doing it for you. If that idea bothers you or your husband than I think that is something you really need to talk about with each other.
And please don't fake orgasms any more! It is soo sad to read that you feel that you have to do that for your husband feels better. Doing that does not make YOU feel better and you are not doing him a favor by it for real for real! If he loves you than he wants you to feel happy and feel pleasure in sex with him.
You truly need to talk about this with him and tell him what is happening. He is your partner and it takes 2. And tell him that it is not his "fault" or your fault or any fault at all it just is and that you want make it better. It may be a good idea to explain to him that women do not Have to have orgasms all the time to enjoy sex at all but that it IS very important that we are able to have them when we want them. You know him best of course but maybe you are protecting him when where he does not need to be and not giving him credit where he does?
Good luck with everything and I hope it all goes better for you soon..I think that it will! Please email me whenever you like :)
2007-08-17 08:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But do you feel some pleasure but not as much as having an orgasm, Liz, or you just feel nothing since the beginning till the end?...
Could you specify a bit more, please?
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Hi Liz, this is me again. I ve just seen you ve pick your comment up..
At the beginning I thought that you felt pleasure but didn t be able to reach an orgasm and I thought this would be a question of your mind. Now I see it s diffrent.
Well I m not sexologyst and I know nothing usefull to solve that but I think the best u could do, save someone tells u something REALLY usefull and serious, is:
First: Go and look up for help in a sexologyst, in a professional. If someone can solve that, it s the doctor.
And second: I m no one to say that to u, but I think you also should tell your husband..no matter how long r u faking (dont fool yourself about it, about how long), he, theoretically, will understands you and, of course, helps you because he is supposed to be the best person you can trust and borrow help.
So, GOOD LUCK Liz and hope to hear good new from you in the future. And of course if you need something else...u just have to tell it!
Come on!!Go for it!!
2007-08-16 10:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mere 20% of women can reach orgasm through straight intercourse alone. The rest must rely upon direct clitoral stimulation. If you're not practicing any sort of foreplay or masturbation prior to or during intercourse, chances are you will NOT have an orgasm even occasionally. That's just a fact of life.
2007-08-16 05:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
do you guys have a foreplay , before intercourse or is it just pum bam, and good day ma'am , you know that is a very important role in a sexual intercourse if you ask your husband to sexually stimulate you , you both can enjoy te sex time a lot more , some of us men , don't know the most sensitive parts of a woman's body , and uncovering the clit and playing with it will almost bring a woman to orgasm , and actual penetration to be the compliment , or just try to masturbate your self and enjoy it .
2007-08-17 11:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by El Chile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 3 kids and the stress of life you have just forgotten how to enjoy sex and your partner. Send the kids to a relative for one night, buy a sexy gown, drink plenty of water before it,no alcohol though, go out to dinner with your partner, do not talk about kids only when you were dating and sexy stuff,......you get the message. And then as if by magic you get it back!!!!
2007-08-16 05:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by Viola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you need to visit www.sextoys.com and get yourself a vibrator. Use that for clitoral stimulation when you have sex. Have your husband use it on you too. It can spice up your sex life and help you climax. I can't have an orgasm most of the time without using my vibrator when we have sex. I hope that helped you out.
2007-08-16 05:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by Dani&Morgan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
half physical..
half mental....
get a sitter, and a room for the weekend, far from the kids...
dress up, go out, have fun, chill,,, no force sex...
after a day of relaxing and calming down... then try again...
thats the mental part.
as for the physical.. try new sensations. baby oil, or in a hot tub.. or get a nice little toy...
2007-08-16 06:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fore play is the answer, secondly never fake, your doing an injustice to you and your husband, talk to him about it, so that the two of you can put your heads together and come up with a plan that will satisfy both of you, each and every time.
2007-08-20 02:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by Katura N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did reach orgasm until 30's . I don't everytime. It's hard to feel sexy and being a mom too.
GOD BLESS
2007-08-16 05:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by TCC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with brutaly honest. That's just the way it goes.
2007-08-16 05:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋