I am almost 23 wks preg., and was thinking about who I want in the delivery room. Well, I talked with my mom even earlier in my preg, & she told me how she would be there. I was psyched! Yesterday, I was talking with my husband & we said how nice it would be to have both grandma's in the room. So, he called his mom & asked her, she was ecstatic! She was so excited that she wanted to call my mom and talk about how exciting it was. My mom then called me and told me how nice it was to invite my mother-in-law & then said she was so happy that my mother-in-law would be able to go because she probably wasn't going to be able to make it. I said, "What? You have to be there?" She told me how she would love to but probably wouldn't. I was so upset and still am. Everyone is about the same distance away from the hospital including my husband, 2-3 hours. It's my hormones, but I am sad that I have to theoretically prepare for no one to be there.
2007-08-16 04:55:08 · 8 answers · asked by Roz 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm know it's selfish to think that people will drop their plans to rush out to the hospital, but I am really down about it. Especially my mom telling me that she probably won't make it. I was counting on her being there. She tends to have a slight jealousy issue, and I think she got a little jealous when my husband's mom called her to tell her that she was excited to be there too. Has anyone gone through this?
2007-08-16 04:57:19 · update #1
My mom said because she is a school teacher that she won't have time to find a substitute, but she used to get them all the time when I was younger if we were sick or something.
2007-08-16 05:42:14 · update #2
i've never been through this.. but dont blame ur hormones for bein' upset it's perfectly normal to want ur mom to be there.. i think u should sit down tell her to get over the jealousy she's ur mom u need her and want her to be there... and make her understand its a special day for ur mother inlaw as well it her grandchild too... i understand how ur mom feels but if she's not there she'll regret it her hole life... and dont get worked up about bein' alone.. trust me ur family WILL drop all their plans to go and greet ur new baby... they love u and everything will turn out fine.. just wait and c... Congratulations... i hope u have a fast safe delivery with all the people u want there beside u.. God Bless
2007-08-16 05:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have had 4 children and never wanted anyone in the room with me except my husband. I love both my mom and my mother-in-law and am close to both, but I just think that the birth of a baby is personal, between a husband and a wife. My older 3 were born without anyone else being in the waiting room since that was back in the day when most couples called family members AFTER the baby was born. My youngest was born with only my husband in the room, but older siblings, some friends, and my parents were all in the waiting room because I went into labor when we were all together.
2007-08-16 12:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my mom in the room when I had my daughter, and not my mother in law. I thought the mother in law would be jealous but no not at all. Your mom would be really missing out over a little jealousy, which in my mind is odd since she would be there too! You've still got a long ways to go so maybe in that time, she'll change her mind. And you never know you might change yours and not want either of them there.
2007-08-16 12:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by JodiMarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to check how many people you are allowed to have in there. My local hospital likes for only 1 other person to be there; which is great in my opinion.
I personally wouldn't want all those people, but it's your decision. If you are comfortable with it though, then best of luck. You can always change your mind and have the nurses ask them to leave.
2007-08-16 12:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My mother lives in a differnt state and I am trying to work out logistics for her to be there. I will be really sad if she cant be. you need to take your mom to lunch and explain to her how much it would mean to you if she was there. Jealousy or not, she needs to understand. Both mothers have an equal right to be there.
2007-08-16 12:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by cwrayvoa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For my delivery, I dont think I want anyone to be there but my husband because when my sister had her baby, we loved getting the call!!!! We waited and waited for days because we never knew when she would have it!
2007-08-16 12:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm...I don't know. I don't want anyone in there except my boyfriend. My entire family wants to be there and they have no idea I'm not letting them in. I think it's a private thing and I don't want anyone else looking down there.
2007-08-16 12:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What was her excuse for not being able to be there? I would be so upset if my mom said that.!
2007-08-16 12:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anyone 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋