Do you ever feel afraid to talk to your mate about the wrongs in your sexlife?

Question

I think if I tell him that its a turn off to always have to be the dominant one, that it will turn him off and make our sex life less comfortable.

Any suggestions of how to avoid this and still get my point across?

Might be slight confusion, he always wants me to be the dominant one.

Answer 1

okay, sometimes my relationship vs other peoples relationships makes me think, whatever i want goes, BUT it hasnt always been like that....
when i was a bit younger i always wanted missionary and that is ALL I WAS WILLING TO DO.....now as our relationship has gotten better......we find our self in our own porn world......(hope im not getting too explicit) i think it was the other way around.....my hubby was feeling the way your feeling.....
slowly ask him to do other things....or just tel him you really feel like doing it but your too tired to get up and ask him if he wants to put in some "work"

or what my husband did that i am just now figuring out is watch xxx movies together....and ask him how would that position be done......or would he like it...by the time you know it......yall will be doing it differently each time.......

you can also talk with him straight out....he might think that you WANT to be the dominant one and doesnt want to hurt your feelings and thats why he left it the its always been.....

even when my husbands tired....and the very few times im on top....ill jump off and put my azz in the air.....and he has no other choice but to jump aboard (*blushing*)

well i hope my suggestions have helped even a teeny little bit
~best wishes and happy fugging~LOL

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Answer 2

No I have no problem with expressing myself....unfortunately delivering the message isn't always loving and caring.....the ego of a man is quite delicate....so however you let him know, do not do it right before or directly after.
Tell him the dreaded words of Honey, we need to talk and then let him know that you don't mind being the dominate one sometimes, but you would like to be dominated as well. If it is a matter of you always having to initiate, tell him, but do not reject his advances when he does....that will just reaffirm the fear of rejection and he won't be apt to approach you again.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

I think you should be able to let him know that you have needs too and they are not being the dominant one all the time ish you should be able to be taken and be the submissive and get that slap on the @$$ flipped over like a pancake, banged like a woman of the night
cause if continues to not hit that right someone else will I am sure.. they will do kittykitty right..

holla@urgirl ;O

Answer 4

Get one of books like ### nights of incredible sex, and tell him/her you want to spice up our love life. Suggesting other things is better than telling whats wrong. Or little things like, I wanna do it my way tonight baby, ok here lay back and let me handle things. When he/she starts trying to do things, Stop look in the eye's no, no, no bad boy/girl and pour on the passions for a easy surender to you...

If he wants you dominate then lead him. Get a blind fold and when you go down, tell him you have a fantasy you want him to fullfill, I wanna put this blind fold on myself and I want you to seduce me and pleasure me. That will put him in the drivers seat and you in heaven.

Answer 5

If you dont tell him, it will just make it worse. And your sexlife will only get worse... I mean you know you have to say something so why keep having sex if it's not going to be good, right?

Answer 6

I have no idea. I have said point blank what I wanted and it goes in one ear and out the other. Still, straight to the point(nicely) is the way to go, so you at least know you tried and there are no confusions or excuses.

Answer 7

I think you have to just tell him, but in a way that won't hurt his precious ego. Maybe something like, I would love it if you would take charge every once in awhile. Or find a way to make it sound like it was his idea.

Answer 8

Damn... That sounds kinda backward. Usually it's us guys that wanna be the masters. "Bend over... NOW!!!" and "bring that @ss around over here!!!" are 2 phrases I could never get sick of saying.
Be straight out. Tell him you wanna be the f@ck-ee for a change and not always the f@ck-er.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Well i'm single but I remember once I told my boyfriend (now ex) that I wasn't really getting off....he was not pleased. Guess I shouldn't have waited a year+ to tell him.