I have a Master Degree in Marketing! But end up now, I am a Finance Manager in an internal company, I don’t like my job, but everyone seem to think that I am doing a good job!!!
I have been married nearly 8 years, my husband loves me so much. But I like him enough to stay with him, but I don’t think I love him as much as he does about me. Basically, I am in a life which I don’t really want to be, then again, there is not enough of reason for me to get out of it, and I am scared to get out of it, it is too comfortable! Time to time, I am two different person, one of me want to be myself, another one wants to be the perfect Mrs. at home, and with a black suit in work!
What should I do?
2007-08-16 04:25:08 · 18 answers · asked by Tomorrowalwaysbetter! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should start looking for a job you love. Comfortable shmomfortable. Be HAPPY. You might really start to look at your husband differently if you're happy about yourself and what you're doing. Don't settle for comfortable. Get the job you WANT!
2007-08-16 04:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your job is not your life. Be happy you have an income that can support you.
You married your husband for many reasons 8 years ago. Think back to what made you fall in love with him in the first place and try to see those things in him today. Tell him why he means a lot to you.
Also, try to spend more of your time doing things you like to do. Work on a hobby or go out to more concerts or sporting events. Invite friends over more often. Go on a trip to somewhere you always wanted to go, with a group of friends. Do something silly. By doing these things, you'll have a more well-rounded life and not see your entire life as work-husband-work-husband because there is so much more to life than the everyday routine.
2007-08-16 11:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The unknown is always scary. You're unknown is living your life without him. Of course you'll miss him being there when you get home, and you'll miss having him with you all the time; that's normal. But are you really prepared to live your life the way it is because of the convenience and the comfort of it all? Change is GREAT! It means things are different. If you want things to be different, that's your only choice. You're not being fair to him or to yourself. If you're not in love with him the way a wife should love her husband, then you shouldn't be married to this man. Good luck.
2007-08-16 11:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
I would start with finding a job that makes me happy. You seem to be pretty miserable and until you are happy you are not goingto be able to make anyone else happy. After I work on the job, I would talk to the hubby and tell him how I feel. Maybe you can get those sparks back up that are missing. I wish you the best of luck and hope that everything works out.
2007-08-16 11:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't say that you love your husband without any doubts then it's time to move on, no matter how much of a front you put up he knows something is not right. Why stay and be unhappy you can't make the heart feel something it won't and the heart don't lie so do what has to be done you and hubby both deserve better and you know it.
2007-08-16 11:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for a career change. You are good at what you do so you'll have a good work reference. Find what you really would enjoy doing for work and your happiness will carry over into your marriage.
I don't know about being Mrs Perfect, I think you need to give up any unreal expectations and do some soul searching about what would truly make you happy then go for it.
2007-08-16 11:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by sara r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can barely put together a coherent sentence, and you have a masters?
Anyway, love is a verb (that means action word), so in order for it to continue, it needs to be consistently worked at. You sound very selfish and focused on your own wants and needs and seem to have forgotten that when you get married, your partner's happiness and needs should be just as important.
Time to get your priorities together, I think.
2007-08-16 11:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shoud be true to the only person you must be true too. You are the only one who matter's you have one life. Be happy you deserve to love not only be loved. Get a job that excites you, same for a life partner. Be happy baby and true to you . God Bless you hun good luck
2007-08-16 11:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by cannot_remember_chit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your life. Be more who you are with your husband or without him, but be more of who you are!
Want to hear something truly scary? This is the only life anyone can prove that you get and its finite. Your life can end at any time, for any reason. Do you want to spend your one, short, chance at life like this?!?!
2007-08-16 11:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey we all feel like this once in a while.... now the thing is u have to tell ur hubby how u feel. this can give u reason to cheat. not that im saying u will, but hey u never know. maybe what u nedd is a long vacation, rekindle the love u once had, or in ur case just just see if their is any love at all.
2007-08-16 11:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋