2007-08-16 04:13:48 · 62 answers · asked by Aeryn Sun 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
One that doesn't equivocate and is heartfelt and sincere.
The trouble is, even if it is sincere, you need to look very carefully at the motives for an apology.
Once someone does something hurtful and spiteful (and it depends on how severe it was) a pattern can be established that tends to point to character flaws.
If it's innocent, it's easy to forgive.
If it's malicious, manipulative and emotionally controlling, that's an entirely different thing.
We should always forgive, otherwise, we carry the pain with us and it burns us as well. However, that doesn't mean we have to accept the person back quickly or at all.
At the end of the day, the choice is really for each of us to make as individuals.
True friends don't judge what choice we make when it involves issues that are difficult ones, they just stand beside you and support you no matter what you choose to do.
2007-08-16 10:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by JC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I always know an apology is sincere when the person looks you in the eyes and says "I'm So Sorry". You can really tell when they say it if their whole heart was behind it. An apology is NOT sincere if:
1. Given on IM/MySpace/txt message
2. Followed by a "Please Please Forgive me" that just shows that they care more about YOUR forgiveness than THEIR apology
3. If the So is dragged out or if there ar multiple so's and really's. (i.e. IM REALLY REALLY REALLY SORRY!!)
4. If they say "Can you ever find it in your heart to forgive me?" That's just a way for people to spin it on you like your the one who should feel guilty because you can't forgive and forget. If the person knows that the apology they gave was sincere, there is no need for this line.
Hope this helps! :)
2007-08-16 04:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by jbdrummergirl93 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When the person apologizes don't make the same mistake again,it's sincere.
2007-08-16 04:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by habisce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one but it really depends on what the person has done and how many times they have done it.if they are constantly repeating the same act with the same plan for forgivness they really need to show that they can be trusted again,that may take some time.on the other hand if it was one bad mistake and they have no history of constatly doing something bad then u just need to listen to there voice and look at them and u will know weather they are really sorry or if they are just gonna pull of the same stunt again.
2007-08-16 04:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sincerity, and remorse.
Not a feeling or demonstration of guilt, because rather than feeling guilty, the person should instead make an attempt to put things to right.
2007-08-16 04:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by AndrewG 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Real words, about the real "topic" at hand. Not simple apologizes....the kind that cause growth and self examination; those are sincere apologies!
2007-08-16 14:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by mchlmybelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your tone of voice matters alot and you have to know you are sincere even if the other person doesnt you also should do a small favor for them within reasonable limits
2007-08-16 04:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by teddyboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sincerity behind it.
Really, you can tell when an apology is for real.
2007-08-16 04:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by RIffRaffMama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There has to be meaning behind those words. If the person is truly sincere, their actions will show how sorry they are.
2007-08-16 07:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jeannie ® 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The tone of voice, and look of contrition on the face of the person making the apology.
2007-08-16 04:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by bgee2001ca 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋