2007-08-16 04:11:10 · 33 answers · asked by Handsome Stranger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told my wife that I had cheated on her and that my girlfriend is pregnant. My wife was mad and hurt when I told her. My girlfriend wants me to leave my wife and be with her. I love both women and I will definitely be there for both of my children. I want to be there for both women. You have no idea how much I love them.
2007-08-16 04:11:54 · update #1
Thanks lily e.....you are the only one who actually decided to think before they spoke.
2007-08-16 04:43:09 · update #2
Just follow your heart you cant stay with both of them...but you should think why you cheated on your wife with the other lady..did you like her personality?looks?
its pretty much whatever you decide..
GOOD LUCK
2007-08-16 04:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by lily e 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You do the right thing because it's the right thing to do.
You got yourself into this mess, and now you have to be responsible, as you have suggested.
If your wife will keep you, do your very best to provide all the support she deserves during her pregnancy and stop seeing the girlfriend.
Provide all the financial support your girlfriend is going to need for both the pregnancy and child support. You might want to suggest giving the baby up for adoption so that s/he can have a stable family environment - that would be best for the baby. But, if she keeps the child, you are responsible to support both of them.
Grow up as soon as possible. You are an adult now. Having "girlfriends" is a thing of the past, dad. Maybe you do love both women, but that's not an option. You are married. You made a commitment. Honor it.
Resolve to be faithful to your wife from this time forward. Do not contact the other woman unless it is legally necessary for child support.
I further suggest that you and your wife find a competent marriage counselor to help you both through this difficult time.
You really messed up. Now, make the best of it for the children that you fathered and the women whose life you have affected.
2007-08-16 04:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By being with both women, you are hurting them both. If your wife and your girlfriend love you, how could they not be angry and hurt that you are with the other?
You have further complicated the situation by impregnating both women. Now, you will have two kids who will be brought into the situation and all the drama.
Keeping on like this, you will be forever divided and they will be forever hurting.
You have to make a choice. Once your choice is made, you will have to stick to it, even when you are tempted to cheat.
Beyond that, you will also have to support one household and pay support for a child outside of that household. This will be expensive, so if you don't have a decent job, you might want to get one before the babies are born. Trust me, kids are very expensive to provide for.
2007-08-16 04:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved your wife you wouldn't have a girlfriend! If you loved your wife you would not have put your marriage in jeopardy. If you loved your wife you would not have behaved in a manner that hurt her.
You are a pig who just wants to sleep around, have your cake and eat it too. You have confused lust with love. Love is about respect and caring, not lying and cheating.
Hopefully your wife will have some self respect and leave your sorry @ss because you sure don't make a role model for your children of what a husband should be.
2007-08-16 04:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by sara r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me?? look here true enough you will be there for both of your children, but that part you said that you love both women is just an excuse your using to be able to cheat in peace if these women accept this well then more power to you.. Your selfish and inconsiderate, no one should be allowed to do this.. at the end they are both going to grow tired of this and your going to end up alone and what is worst with double child support payments LOL good luck.
2007-08-16 07:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 'young' man, you need to grow up and call a spade a spade..THE ONLY PERSON YOU LOVE HERE IS YOURSELF. YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW OR WHAT IT TAKES TO LOVE ANOTHER PERSON..YOU PUT THEM SECOND TO YOUR OWN DESIRES AND THAT IS NOT TRUE LOVE.
You sound as if you are the only one that matters here...what about their feelings and dedication to you...do they deserve any less dedication from you? Of course not, yet you allow yourself to get involved with someone else anyway. They should both just kick you to the curve...where you have demonstrated that is where you belong...and just demand child support from you till it hurts. You have disrespected both of these women, who probably do care very much for you....SHAME ON YOU...BAD BOY HERE. STAY WITH YOUR WIFE AND STOP SLEEPING WITH THE GF. DOES YOUR WORD MEAN NOTHING IN THIS WORLD.
2007-08-16 04:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your name shows how stuck you are on yourself. Acting now like you are man of the year saying " I will be there for the children and the women" makes me sick. You said vows when you married your wife and we all now how much you meant them... Do these women a favor and leave both of them. Just send your generous monthly check to each!
2007-08-16 04:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to get a second and third job. That child support is going to be a killer for the next 18 years. It is not tax deductible but still has to be paid unless you want to go to prison. Advise you to buy a few condoms or get a vasectomy as you can't afford any more kids at this point.
2007-08-16 04:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the wife forgives you, stay with her. You have commited to her and she is first on your list. Next get a vasectomy if you do not plan to stop cheating on the poor woman, who you could be taking STDs to her. I wouldn't be surprised if she no longer wants to sleep with you. Just because the gf is prego, gives her no right to wreck the home, she knew what was coming when she had relationships with you.
On your side, you be a good father to both children, it is your obligation.
2007-08-16 04:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by Mary Laurita 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-16 05:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋