My boyfriend is very ambitious he wants to be a Doctor. That makes me nervous, I tell him I don't want him to be, therefore he is looking into Pharmacy however I know that isn't his passion and I don't want to be selfish. I want to be supportive but at the same time how difficult is it? I know once he is in med School he can't work and it's very difficult for him and were living together. We do want to marry and have children how is it for the family? I am studying Accounting but that isnt as time consuming. I have a good salary and can manage paying bills on my own. However, in the future I want to be happy with a great family is this possible? How tough is it being a Med Student Spouse, nonetheless a Doctors Spouse in the future?
2007-08-16 04:09:36 · 18 answers · asked by Mari 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Practically his whole family are Doctors including both parents.
2007-08-16 04:24:17 · update #1
You kepp telling me I am SELFISH! Obviously I am and I am aware of that I have made it clear. I don't want you to repeat what I already know. i want you to tell me what i am up for and if it's manageable.
2007-08-16 04:55:47 · update #2
My X-wife tried to stand in the way of what I was trying to accomplish for myself. One of the reasn she is an X now.
You can live comfortably with him going to school. You may not have a huge bank account at the end of the month but as long as bills get paid and you're fed and you have ap lace to live what more do you need? My wife and I now have been going thourgh thatfro the last 2 1/2 years. I was in school for 2 years while she worked and earned 80% of our income. Now I work and she's gettting an other degree for the next year.
We always make ends meet, we put up wwith it becasue we know the pay off in the end is going to be worth it.
2007-08-16 04:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sean C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Med school, and residence, might be tough it is a lot of long hours, but just think of all the advantages you can have when he is a doctor. They make good money. No weekends if they are in private practice etc... I wouldn't stand in his way, you don't want him to resent you in the long run. If being a doctor is his passion he should go for it. Good Luck to you.
2007-08-16 04:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by bluebird 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would you want him telling you NOT to be an accountant?
I understand that you want him to be totally devoted to you and your children when the time comes but you can't ask him to not follow his dream because of that. You should encourage him instead. I'm sure there are Doctors out there that have a normal life with husbands/wives and children.
2007-08-16 04:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has the smarts and the work ethic to be a physician and you want him to do pharmacy?
This is because he will be spending a lot of time without you?
A bit selfish don't you think? Do you know how badly he will resent your getting in the way of his life ambition?
2007-08-16 04:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being extremely selfish! Who are you to tell your boyfriend not to follow his dream? You're supposed to be supportive, and you obviously can't be. Why don't you leave him and find someone who isn't so ambitious.
I think what's really bothering you is that when he graduates, he'll find another doctor or hot nurse to cheat on you with, then he'll leave you, cause you never supported him anyway. At least you get half.
2007-08-16 04:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He will in the end resent you. You have no right to tell him not to follow his dreams. You going to do that to your kids also??? Sorry it will take to long, sorry that person isn't right for you?
Work it out or let him be. Doctors make good money and if he wants to do it then let him. You either stand by him 100% or not at all.
2007-08-16 04:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT IS ONLY AS HARD AS YOU ALLOW IT TO BE. There are plenty of happy doctor families...you just have to decide wether or not this guy is worth your sacrifice....that sounds more like the true question you want to ask and only you can make that decision. So, do you trust him enough to support him now and that he will love you long enough to benefit from his aquired lucrative profession?
2007-08-16 04:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should help him out on this one.
You may marry, have kids , a house and when he has time to think and feels he missed his dream how do you think he is going to feel? Who will he blame?
You two are young and have lots of time for everything else. Support and love him now. When you love someone you want them happy. You put their needs in front of your own.
2007-08-16 04:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be a lot easier than living with someone who resents the fact he couldn't follow his dreams. You need to be flexible enough to stand by him for a few years in order to have a happy future together...
2007-08-16 04:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question makes no sense. Why makes your nervous about your boyfriend being a doctor?
Asking someone to change their career is very selfish and immature.
2007-08-16 04:19:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋