People are always trying to tell me what I CAN'T do, & then they tell me my dreams, goals, & wishes are irrational & unrealistic. When I do think positive, people think I'm crazy & call that abnormal. & then when I think negative or complain, people say I alienate society away from me. I don't even know how I should feel.
2007-08-16 03:33:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, I'd say....start hanging around with new people. If you're working on being positive, there will always be negative crabs in the bucket of life. The best thing you could do would be to limit, or cut those negative ties altogether while seeking to upgrade your associative relations.
I can understand where you're coming from...when I was making a lot of growth happen in my life I had a lot of people trying to drag me back down.
Here's the thing, if you allow the limited expectations of the mediocre to dictate how you should be or how you should live your life....you're doomed to be just like them.
When you see what the mediocre majority is doing, sprint towards the opposite direction. This is the way to make changes, and to facilitate the avenue for personal growth and expansion along your life.
Take this for what it is, but I want to make a suggestion towards some reading for you : "What to say when you talk to yourself, and Who are you really, and what do you want" writted by Shad Helmstetter, PhD.
Trust me, if you read those books, and apply the principles he has in there....it'll change elements of your self-talk and self-perception to a point where the naysayers won't make nearly as much of an impact anymore.
I read them, and it woke me up to so many elements of ill-affecting self-thought/self-speech programs that I never thought I could shake. No matter what you hear from others hon, most of what you hear all day is yourself. Once you change what you yourself program into your head, all change can begin for the better.
Take care of yourself,
Ryan
2007-08-16 06:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by Manji 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother yourself analysing what other people think about you. This world is large enough for different people.
If you have a dream then it means YOU HAVE IT and no one has right to criticize it. If you want to shut them up find some evidence that would prove your truth (although, as I said, who cares).
Life is quite complicated so people tend to complain a lot. And I think this actually brings them joy! And when they see you, happy and full of hopes and dreams, they feel unsuccessful, old jerks, however no one will ever admit that:)
Moral is so: don't waste your time proving your truth to those who don't want to hear it, waste it on fulfilling your dreams;)
2007-08-16 10:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Aatami 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The problem I see here is that you rely to much on what other people say and think. At the end of the day you only have one life and its for you to live. So if you want to do something GO FOR IT!! By this I don't mean turn pig-headed but I think you should listen to other people but just take it with a pinch of salt. So consider what they are saying but if you don't like what you hear it doesnt mean you have to listen
2007-08-16 10:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by JayJay 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a big favor, STOP listening to everyone else.
It really doesn't matter what others think of you, Only What You Think Of You.
Free yourself from every & any negativity others send your way, Shakespeare said it best "To Thine Own Self Be True"
Absolutely no one can know what is best for you or what makes you happiest so there is no point in listening to anyone else .
Just be you and be happy. :-)
2007-08-16 11:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by lillianroh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what anyone tells you, you can do whatever you set your mind to do. It matters little what they think, don't let the world drag you down.
No one wants to be around some one who is negative and complains, it's better to let them think you are crazy...
2007-08-16 10:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pls go to the libaray and check out the book i have been telling you about amazing storys about people who have over come worst problems than most of us could ever aver had.. Dr. Peale is my hero my mentor and Idol
2007-08-16 11:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you are more successful than them at one thing. Tell them that anybody can be successful in what they do but they can never be as successful as you are in failing LOL Being a successful failure is a positive thing and they can't deny that ;-)
2007-08-16 10:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by kendavi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are always going to be people who like to put you down.If you don't like what they say either ignore them or find someone else who will back you up through all ups and downs not try to bring you down even more.
2007-08-16 10:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by 2 Hott 2 Trott 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
queen, focus on yourself. skrew the others
may i suggest meditation? works wonders for getting centered
2007-08-16 11:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yourself and take it naturally.
2007-08-16 11:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by Cypocryphy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋