I have a 5 day old baby. His dad has been gone since July 22nd. I know it's not long but I am having such a hard time by myself. It seems like I just want to give up. I love him so much but it's so hard with this new baby. All i can think about is how much i miss him. I'm letting myself get depressed. I don't think I'm cut out to be a Marine wife, I need my mate beside me, to hold me up. How did you cope with being alone for months or years at a time? Did you ever feel lost, like nothing would ever go the way you expected? Is it normal to feel like I am feeling?
2007-08-16 03:21:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My daughter went through this with her Marine. You need to actively build a/some support groups. It can be family, friends, or other wives. If you live on base, there should be a base chaplain who can put you in touch with the various organizations. Red Cross has some. Your church might have some. But you have to seek help actively. Hopefully you are not having to work, but taking care of an infant can be very stressful. Can your mother help? His mother? The base can also provide counseling which will help you with your feelings. Your feelings are normal, as long as they don't get to be obsessive. Check out stuff at stuffhappens dot net.
Also, if he is in combat, you have to give him a lot of support. He has to keep his mind on his job. Good luck.
2007-08-16 03:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While my husband was in the Marine Corps, he went to Okinawa for a year. I had a 2 yr old little girl. To be honest, you should have thought about all of this before. It's not like he has a say in where he is stationed. He's doing his job and while I realize that you love and miss him like crazy, it is just as hard on him. The only advice I can give is to look at each day as one less until you see him again. The time that my husband and I were away from each other gave me time to bond with my child. We did so much together. I really know what you're going through, and it is hard. Just know that he is wherever he is with noone but his fellow Marines. You have your son, family and friends here. Be strong, you don't need anyone to "hold you up": This time apart can do alot for you too. It can show you that you are indeed stronger than you thought. When my husband came home, I joined the Marine Corps myself. It made a world of difference in my life.
Good luck to you!
2007-08-16 10:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by Diane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a wife to anyone
but i thnk you are just majorly stressed right now especially with a new born so i think you need the support of friends and family. ask them if they would like to babysit a night so you can get at least 9 - 10 hours of sleep because the lack of sleep makes you cranky and you love your husband and you can do the marine wife thing. email me back
2007-08-16 10:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by rooney8dabom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not married or anything, but my sister is married to a guy who has been in the Navy for 3/4 of their marriage.
She says that the best thing that you can do is live in the moment, and not think about them being gone. Dote over your child and fill the day full of activities so that during that time you are too busy to think about it, and at night you will be too exhausted to think about it....
Also, set goals for yourself while he is gone to surprise him. My sister has lost a lot of weight and has also taken up a few hobbies to surprise him. She is also taking online classes at our local college so that she can complete her degree....
Just focus on the here-and-now....your hubby will be back!
Marie
2007-08-16 10:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Marie Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can keep in touch with him through a variety of ways and that can help you through ....
2007-08-16 10:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to ask george bush ,because if he is killed,you would be alone forever.
2007-08-16 10:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by 2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋