is it normal for two people to become bored with each other?

Question

with divorce rate and all the single parents out there, it seems that it is normal, but do you think it really is? or have we become custom to having so many options available to us in every aspect of our lives that it has spilled over into our love lives? do you have an attitude that if it doesnt work out, thats okay, just break up and move on or do you try to save your love.

Answer 1

I dont think they get bored, I think that they get comfortable and 4get what attracted them 2 each other in the first place. Marriage is work and if u don't work at it and take a lakadasical approach 2 it, it WILL fail. I'm on my 2nd marriage and I work hard 2 make it functional everyday.

Answer 2

Usually Married People Will Bore, Like Kids Sometimes Bore With Their Games, Some Times Nothing Challange Any More, Nothing interest Again, All We Already Know, Bad Or Good Of Our Couple, And The Bad Thing Evil Or Satan Always Make Us Remember Of Our Couple Fault, Wrong, Sin, We Forget Of Goodness He Or She Did, All We Remember is Wrong & Faulth Habit, Character. Do Not Just Look How Great Other People Will Love Me, How Handsome is He, How Rich is He, How Sexy is He, He Loves Me More Than You, May Be This Right Now, if We Already Old, Our Teeth Less Than 2? Will He Love Us Like Now?, Or if We Get Accident, Our Legs No More, No Hands, Or Sick, No Hair, No Breast, Or Our Body That He Like?, May Be Not, All We Must Do is Loyal To Our Marriages, God Know All, God Know Our Statement When Marriage, Even Suffer We Will Always Together, We Will Loyal, Remember God Know Our Statement, Do Loyal, God Know All, Do it For God Even our Couple Make Our Heart Hurt, Pray For Him, Always Do Good For Him, God Will Change His Heart, He Will More Loves You, Jesus Loves You, Best Regards [e-mail]

Answer 3

I think it is human nature to get bored with one another, but if you really do the love the person, it is worth it to work at the relationship, as opposed to getting a divorce. Relationships need attention every day in order to survive. So, I am of the opinion that you need to save the relationship, as opposed to divorce or breaking-up. My attitude take up hobbies together, or show an interest in what the other one is doing. IMO, the most important aspect of a relationship is having good conversations and communicating with one another and sharing.

Answer 4

I don't think it's normal for two people to become bored with each other. I do think it's very normal for people to become bored with their lives and their routines, and they mistakenly think that means that they are bored with their significant other.

I do not believe in bending over backwards to make things work with a boyfriend. Dating shouldn't be that much work; he's not the one, move on. With a fiance, I'd work harder at it; planning a wedding and preparing to spend the rest of your live with a person is stressful, and it can cause problems where there really isn't any problem. I'd work very hard to make sure that my feelings of unhappiness were genuine before breaking it off. With a husband, I'd do everything I could to save the love.

Answer 5

there are lots of reasons to become bored with each other. if you try to fix it, by showing up naked, and he doesnt notice, there is nothing else you can do. some people do not care, they will not work to save a marriage.

others dont even try to save a marriage, he goes out with his buddies once a year, and she wants a divorce.

i knocked myself out trying to save mine, we werent married, but lived together for 7 years. went to a shrink. she said it was because i had this big box of porn on top of the dresser in the bed room that she didnt like looking at. i knew that wasnt true. went home, put the box in the attic.
next session the i told the shrink i moved the box, she said great, asked her how she felt about it, ex said she didnt notice it had been moved. gave the shrink a wake up call.

you must try to save a marriage, but like a sinking ship, you must also leave it if it cant be saved, or you will go down with it.
even the rats are smart enough to get off the ship.

Answer 6

I've been married for 21 years. On the rare occasions I feel bored by what my wife is saying, I listen carefully for awhile, and then, when the moment is right, I skillfully change the subject without her even realizing that was what I was trying to do.

And that's the best I can do answering this question. Not once, in all our years, have I ever been bored with her as a person. I find her endlessly interesting. Nobody's perfect, but she is perfect for me, and I wouldn't trade her for any other woman in the world.

Answer 7

I think a lot of married couples young and old alike, get complacent in their lives and begin to take things for granted.

We too get comfortable in our daily lives and relationships and relax our attitudes. We tend to let ourselves go in as much as we don't keep ourselves as attractive, for our spouse, such as putting on makeup, or keeping our hair neat, trying to stay neat and sexy, like we did when we were dating.

In answer to your question...yes we can become bored with each other, with all the distractions that are out there now, ie, video games, Ipods, cell phones, etc. Not to mention very attractive members of the opposite sexes.

But, with patience and a little imagination, you can bring back that new romance in your lives. If you are religious, ask GOD to help you and your mate to "fall back in love" again.

I know that children tend to slow things down too, but, you can make a "Date Night" and go to a movie, dinner, dancing, get a baby sitter and get a hotel room. There's lots of things you can do to bring back the "spark" you once had. God bless you and good luck.

Answer 8

I think people give up too easily. Boredom/getting into a rut is normal (as I've learned in my experience) but that doesn't mean two people should just give up and walk away...especially if they have kids! Boredom or getting into a rut is the exact time when the couple should try their hardest! It would be impossible to stay with someone for a length of time without feeling some sort of boredom or falling into a routine...but that just means its time to spice things up!

Answer 9

Is it normal , in today's world perhaps.

50 years ago we were all too busy trying to live that boredom in a marriage was not an option. Not much TV, not many labor saving devices, trying to keep your car running, no computers, no calculators no cell phonies. Getting anything done was not that easy.

I think we may all be so overstimulated that any downtime results in destructive boredom.

Answer 10

I think people have stopped thinking for themselves. They see TV or the movies and honestly believe their life should be like that. People want immediate gratification. Few people save up money to buy anything any more. Everything is pre-packaged and ready to go. People don't want "love" they want the "in love" feeling which is no the same and so much less than "loving" someone.