My ex still claims to want to remain friends with me, so I try by staying in touch. Nothing about the relationship is ever brought up. Will I be able to become friends with her the way we were before? I mean, we talked about our relationships and talked for hours about all kinds of things. I would be comfortable with her confiding in me again about her life if she would allow me to do the same. But for some reason there is a wall where we can't open up like we did b4, especially the part of who we are with or starting to become interested in. Is that really a friendship if you can't open up and confide in one another again? I am curious what everyone else thinks!
2007-08-16 02:58:56 · 8 answers · asked by A man of my word 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She left me about 3 months ago. We had been trying to get back during the summer, but it just wasn't in the cards for us. Not right now. I just miss the friendship we had b4 and would like to go back to that open forum. I guess sex really does screw things up sometimes. Not for me because I am willing to make that friendship work. Oh well, time to kick it with other friends I have.
2007-08-16 03:14:08 · update #1
If you both truly want to remain friends then you just need to give it a bit of time until you both figure out what each other is comfortable with what information is shared. You may both not be sharing certain information for fear of hurting the other person, it seems you both still care about each other. Having a romantic relationship often harms a friendship, if you discuss your discomfort with each other and find out exactly what you both want from your friendship you should be able to sort it out. Good luck.
2007-08-16 03:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt mention who ended the relationship. I ask that because you can assume that the "leftee" obviously still has feelings for the "leaver." That influences how these post-sexual relationships or "friendships" work out. Or whether they have a future.
BUT!
I am not saying this sort of friendship is impossible. Quite the opposite, if the 2 people really invest the time while they regain they're "pre" footing - you'll find it to be one of the most treasured relationships in your life.
2007-08-16 10:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by crydanger212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends with anyone you want, including old past relationships. You need to set limits internally with what you want out of the friendship.
2007-08-16 10:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impossible to stay friends. When you guys go out with others as a group, and she starts just talking to another guy.....you will go crazy and start arguing! Not a good idea
2007-08-16 10:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by ShaunC#14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never be normal... It is just how things like this work.
2007-08-16 10:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not ready to tell you about her new man.
2007-08-16 10:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mountain Magic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go to her dont answer to her phone. leave her
2007-08-16 10:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by jansettt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-08-16 10:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋