If so why and if so why not? I personally will only have sex with a person that I love or feel that I will love. Hehe I was going to say love but then realised that I only waited 3 days with my husband and I don't think I loved him quite that fast... I knew I was going to though!
2007-08-16 02:40:37 · 26 answers · asked by SmEllY! 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry for the mistake in my question. I didn't mean I waited for marriage I meant I waited til I knew I would love him, 3 days after we got together lol. I had sex before him.
2007-08-16 02:44:58 · update #1
My daughter was born out of wedlock, I don't see what difference it has made to her...
2007-08-16 02:55:18 · update #2
It is a fact that most people have sex before they get married. People have sex before marriage because they have sex drive.
2007-08-16 02:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I just don't know anymore. I really believe it is wrong, but I'd never heave a rock at someone who didn't wait. It really isn't my business. We waited and I don't regret that. But, can I say everything in life worked out better because we did... no. But, I would have felt guilty and wouldn't have enjoyed it anyway. I also would have probably ended up pregnant because there would have been no way I would have "planned" to have sex.
2007-08-16 09:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what we believe about sex, it's what we believe about Biblical teachings. The idea that sex outside of marraige (that includes premarital sex) is wrong is based on Christian principles and teachings. If the Bible were never written, you would never ask this question.
That said, do you believe what the Bible teaches?
Here's my experience: First had sex when I was 15. Not emotionally stable at all. I wish I never had sex at any age before marraige. I wish I never experienced the completely unatural emotional typhoon that accompanied sex at a young age. I believe that I still carry some of that emotional baggage with me today and it has negatively impacted my marraige. I believe that God does teach that sex outside of marraige is wrong for a lot of reasons. He just doesn't tell us the reasons and expects us to trust Him. If I had trusted His word, I know I would be a different person today (different wife, different career, etc.).
Think about that in a quantum scale; all of the past generations and the millions of people living today never having premarital sex. It would be a different world!
2007-08-16 09:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I fell in love with my husband very quickly also. I knew he was the man I was going to marry and yes, we had sex numerous times before we walked down the aisle.
I don't see that as a problem...if anyone else does, too bad. It's not like we're out in public, flaunting our sex lives to others.
Live and let live...
2007-08-16 09:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I believe you should be married to make love with someone. If you really love each other you will be more than happy to take that extra leap and get married. To love a man or woman enough that you want to spend the rest of your lives with them and make love instead of having sex. You learn them what they like, dilike, and how they like it. I am still a virgin waiting to marry my boyyfriend..he is also a virgin and I'm very happy he waited on me. It lets me know that even before he met me...he was praying for me and saving that special gift for me that I am saving for him and no other man should ever know, see, feel, or do... the things he will be allowed to do with me. That's how I feel. I feel like we are worth more than just havng sex with people. I AM WORTH MORE!
2007-08-16 10:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by Queen 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
These days anything goes!
I dont believe in sex before marriage but i did it anyway...It was hard to wait when i had such intense feelings for my fiance (love).
2007-08-16 10:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by bellesnail 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't. Call me a Jesus freak (That's what I am, and I wouldn't have it any other way!) if you want, but the bible clearly states that sex outside of marriage is sin. It's fornication, and, what if a child is born out of this wedlock? I'm not putting down people that have been through this, because nobody's perfect, and we all make mistakes. But, I'm a FIRM believer that sex should be for the married, and the married only. =]
2007-08-16 09:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
I don't believe in sex before marriage simply because your virginity is a gift and you don't just give it to anyone, you should give it to your husband/wife ONCE you are married. My husband and I were both virgins when we married and it was the best gift we could have ever given each other.
2007-08-16 09:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I never slept with a man until I was married. My husband, on the other hand, slept with everyone he dated. Now I have three STDs from him (which he told me he had no stds & I believed him like an idiot). He has no symptoms of any of them and I suffer with incurable virus now. I wish he had waited and only slept with me. But I married him knowing all that so I sort of asked for it, in a round about way.
Good luck!
2007-08-16 09:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by philosophy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Colleen. I dont want to get married. I dont want the government getting involved in my relationship.
SO Should I not be allowed to have sex or have children???
IS a piece of paper stating that I am legally married According to the State of Michigan the ONLY thing allowing me to have sex and to have children??? Without this paper, I am committing a sin, and with the paper I am OK???
That is CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!
If you love someone, sex comes naturally.
2007-08-16 10:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Annonymous 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋