If two loving people are committed to each other why do they have to have a piece of paper to say that it is ok to have children? I don't get it.
2007-08-16 02:14:33 · 32 answers · asked by jennasue14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is a tradition that people follow and it is also a matter of opinion that people have these days.. marriage is just a commitement that people feel must be undergone so that later on whatever happens is in the marriage.. in the olden days if the couple was not married and had a kid that child was rejected and called a bAs**** u get what im saying?
of course nowadays views on the subject have changed.. so that is why people still believe first comes love then comes marriage then comes. baby!
however some others dunt think about it that way and that is an opinion.. :D
2007-08-16 02:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Chiv D 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Maybe because children deserve to have parents who are willing to LEGALLY commit to a relationship so that they can't just run off without consequences whenever the going gets a little rough. If that piece of paper is no big deal, why not go and get it anyway? If it's no big deal, right?
By legally committing to the other person, you are protecting your own rights as well as those of your child. Plus, you are setting an example for that child that love in a relationship and raising children is a huge responsibility. If Just take a look around...so many broken families, children who don't know who their father's are...the list goes on. I understand not everyone can have a perfect relationship or environment but to bring a child into the world full well knowing you will never marry that other person is just downright wrong. The children deserve better.
2007-08-16 05:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by Empress1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be in love and certain that you're in love before you have children. When you fall in love, you will naturally want to get married. Nobody has to do anything. It's what they want to do. If they're truly in love, they won't feel trapped, they will just become closer. You take his name and turn your life into one, even legally. Everything he has becomes hers and everything she has becomes his.
Enjoying life without children for the first year or two is the way it should go, because that's when you'll really know what you both want for your future. You might both decide you don't want children and you just want to enjoy life together and travel all over the country.
Creating a child should be a decision that the two of you make. It shouldn't be an accident like so many people make today.
If your man doesn't want to make that commitment and make your relationship even stronger, then he still wants the ability to be free. Free from you and your child. He doesn't want the responsibility of sharing his life with you till death do you part. The children will grow up very confused, because it definitely will affect the child, not in good way. That's a statistic.
Woman are ruining this world, because they are becoming pregnant just because they had sex. So many children have different fathers all over the country. Those children have no stability, they don't know who they really are and that is why the world is the way it is today. How come it wasn't like that many years ago? Because they were in love, they were married and then they created they're family.
2007-08-16 03:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Children need stability and also have an issue when they go to school and there mom has a different last name then there dad. What I don't understand is what is the point of living with a guy playing wife having a child and legally not getting that piece of paper. If it works for you then great.
2007-08-16 02:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Bible it says sex outside of marriage is wrong. Also I just think a marriage is a more stable relationship to raise a child in. I mean it shows that you respect each other enough and love each other enough to make it a life time forever relationship. Although you may be committed to each other for the time being you are also more free to not be at any time. Once there is "that piece of paper" there is more to dissolving the relationship.
2007-08-16 02:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Wilma S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If two people are committed to one another than they should be married before having children. Because its a sin to have child born out of wed lock. Ive had children without being married and I wind up raising these children by myself and with no help at all. if you can have half the cow why take the whole cow. Do what ever makes you happy.
Best of health
2007-08-16 02:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with a piece of paper in my opinion. We made a commitment before God and our family and friends. It's that commitment that matters to me. The paper is just confirmation that we did.
the whole concept is that we have made a binding commitment till death do us part. I want my children to feel safe in that knowledge. You are free to make your own choices but I am offended that you act like there is something wrong with people who try to give our kids the best family life possible.
2007-08-16 05:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with human cultural evolution, dating back thousands and thousands of years. Two committed people got married to love and care for each other, but to also have children. Together, they are called a family. Been that way for a long, long, long time....
Marraige and Family are not just words. They have deep rooted meaning for millions and millions of people and have for nearly every past generation of people and continues today for millions.
Your question and your ideas about marraige and family oversimplify these very important things and take what is so very important to people and make it seem trivial and unimportant. That's where questions like yours could offend some people. It seems that your lack of understanding of marraige and family is so great that I don't know where to start in explaining it to you. I'm not sure you even want to understand it.
Good luck. I hope you always find happiness.
2007-08-16 02:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If two people are commited to each other, why not make a civil commitment to each other? If a childis born are the parents only togther for that child out of caprice or have they commited their souls to raising a family...a marriage.
That seems far more that a piece of paper.
2007-08-16 02:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because without that piece of paper, it is too easy for a couple to break up, and then the poor child has lots of problems, with a single parent. The single parent, usually the mother, is also left with a lot less legal options than she would have if married, and then divorced.
2007-08-16 02:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you truly believe that marriage is just a piece of paper, then why are you so against getting it?
With that piece of paper comes, not only the promise to do whatever you can to stay together forever, but also rights if things should go south.
2007-08-16 02:24:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋