help me know whether this relationship will work or is better to quit?

Question

am a lady aged 25 years and have been hooked up with a guy aged 27 years
have been struggling to meet the daily requirements of our lives since he doesnt work.The problem is he doesnt seem to be serious to get employment or struggle to put up a business for himself to help in the family.above all he has been taking some of the my savings without saying which makes us end up in querel.is this a good sign of someone who is serious or do i forget about in and continue with my life alone besides that we have one year son .please advice

Answer 1

It will not work unless you like living with a loser.

You are staying with him because
a) you need a baby sitter?
b) emotional reasons: do you think you can't do better?
c) you possess endless patience?
d) you are wealthy and you don't mind dishonest leeches?

Honestly, you know the answer. I am not a fortune teller. But I do know that if you get rid of this one...you can have a life and maybe find a mature man one day.

Answer 2

Let me see. This fellow is 27 years old , has a child with you that he is not taking care of and has no ambition to be employed,And is stealing from you.
1. He is not a child, but he expects to be treated as one.
2. he is content that you take on all responsibility for your own and your childs well being.
3. He is a theif.
Sounds like you have hit the jackpot.
Don't waste another minute on this loser You are 25 and have wasted enough time and money on him. Accept that the things that usually cause a man to step up to the plate, are not going to motivate this guy. Find yourself a better life where you can go through life with a real partner and provide your little son with a good role model. You can find love and happiness, only not with this guy.

Answer 3

Well he doesnt sound to serious about getting a job to help out and if he is taking money without saying anything hurts the trust bond between you both! If he is not serious about getting a job how can you be sure he is serious about having a nice family relationship or even if he will take your son seriously! He doesnt sound like he has matured yet or he doestn realize that he has to grow up now because you do have a son to take care of! I would tell him that if he does not make an effort to get a job and help out your family in some way then quit! but make sure you confront him about everything and make him know that you are truly serious about leaving him behind! If he really cares about your son and you he wont want to lose you and he will work harder to get a job....if not it shows he doesnt really care about you!

Answer 4

Let me tell you something straight up- It is NOT okay for him to take money from YOUR savings even if he is a joint holder of the account, this dude is a parasite, a leech, a sponge, and you HAVE to get rid of him. He should be helping to support the two of you, yet he behaves as though it's a pay-once-eat-all-you-can buffet, which you most definitely are NOT. However, think of it like this, why should he be serious about looking for employment when he has his personal slave supporting both him and herself, if he even cares about that- that is how he's reasoning. Please re evaluate this relationship. How valuable is he, actually, to YOU? Ask yourself whether he's actually done anything for you and not just himself. Ask yourself if he really loves you, Cuz if he did, he wouldn't act like this. Ultimately, ask yourself, "Do I REALLY love him?" Then do what you've gotta do...Do what's TRULY right for you. Think about it.
Most relationships that place more stress on one partner aren't TRUE "partnerships". They just cant work, and they are correctly termed as Exploitation, and Manipulation. Don't let anyone exploit or manipulate you, cuz you ARE your own person, owned by no one. No one has the right to do this to you, unless you give it to them. Please don't.
I really feel sympathy for your young one. On the other hand, since he's so young, he may not remember his father, or his behaviour. When he's old enough to understand, explain to him, but DON'T hide anything from him! Try to give him the best you possibly can, without his father.
It's a crying shame that his father doesn't care. But, I may be wrong. Try talking to him. If he still refuses to change and get responsible, then that leaves no other option. This WILL inevitably affect your son, so try your best to salvage this relationship unless its hopeless.
Good luck; please make the right choice.

Answer 5

Leave him, take the kid... That's that. He isn't worth keeping around if he's goign to do that, and you don't want the son to grow up in a household like that... Think about 10 years from now, how awful it could be.

Get your son and yourself out of there while you have a good chance of making a good life for yourselves.

Answer 6

You need to give him an ultimatum. Tell him: "Get a job and some type of income or we're over". He's living on Easy Street right now. Don't let him get away with using you. Ask him if something os preventing him from getting a job. Give him a time frame to get himself together in. If he doesn't get himself together...run for your life and run fast.

Answer 7

There is a failure to communicate here on this situation. Looks like its' time to make him wake up and get moving because a Man that doesn;t work or doesn;t want to work with a one year child too is just dead beat to me.
He should have a ligitmate excuse as to why he doesn't work and if that excuse is not acceptable then its' time for you to realize that your in a dead end zone with this guy and move on.
learn from your mistakes.

Answer 8

Leave him, tell him to look you up when he finds a job and keeps it for at least 3 months first, and is willing to marry you and when he can learn not to spend so much. And, tell him, "I hope I am still available". And, mean it! Do you live in his place, or is it your place? Kick him out. Maybe he will straighten up quickly! Good Luck!

Answer 9

If not for the age, I could swear you were talking about my ex-husband! lol

Obviously, in your heart, you already know the answer, otherwise you wouldn't have posted this question. Get out whille you can...don't be like me. I went through 5 years with someone just like it and barely escaped with my sanity.

Answer 10

well hon you may as well be living alone you are supporting a son and a extra child, he has used enough , time for him to either shape up or ship out, he really doesn't have the family interest at heart , only his own needs, better for you to move on with your life..............