has anyone gone through a massive carrier and educational failure?what did you do then?effort in one direction

Question

i passed school in 2002 since then i have not taken up any grad programme primaraly coz i was not interested in any other thing else than being a doctor in the first place and secondally whatever course i took i flunked , now i am in the middle of nowhere.and also my parents have always been completely non supportive. when i wanted to study ,i was told to take up a job and come back home only to baby sit my niece (from my sis who is separated from her hubby, living with us) and do household chores.i used to be mute and shy but these days i'm in a lot frustrations coz unable to express myself and also unable to make them realise their mistakes.my family hates it a lot when i try to be a rebel, even when i try to open my mouth to ask for financial help.it is difficult to make somebody understand the very biased nature of my family.plz help i am in a suicidal condition as i think of nothing else but making it big as a doctor some day.i am 23 now, is it worth of putting efforts for 11 yr

Answer 1

sure if that's what you want

Answer 2

Of course it is; you don't want to spend the rest of your life living as you are now, and the only way to get out of that rut is to start moving forward. I would strongly recommend, however, that you visit your local community mental health center to get some support for your emotions. Applying to medical school can be brutal - many people try again and again and never make it in, and since you already seem to be in a rather fragile condition due to your relationship with your family, you could use all the support you can get.

I'm a little concerned by your statement about "whatever course I took I flunked", which does not bode well for medical school. You really do need to have a fall-back position in mind, as do we all. Having high goals is wonderful, but when they are too high, and we don't have alternatives, life becomes a series of failures. I know that all my life I've had in mind, "I want to do X, but if for some reason I can't do that, I'll do Y." You may never need to do "Y", but you certainly can't spend your entire life waiting in life for X to happen.

It would be nice if you felt more support from your family, but we all are stuck with the families we have. You are 23 now, which is well into adulthood. You do need to find a way to support yourself and to live on your own. When you have to rely on people who seem not to value your own plans, you just become less and less independent and powerful. You need to take charge of your own life, rather than expecting your family (who don't sound like they have ever been so inclined) to do so.

Answer 3

hey look........don't feel so depressed......you never knw what turn life may take. you never expected it to go this way and believe me you can never ever expect it to stay the same way. listen being a doctor is not the only way of determining of your success. try doing some easy graduate degree like arts through graduation with easy subjects. its not even expensive and gives you the benefit of being a graduate. try doing some jobs.........start frm working as a sales retailer at some local store or if possible do a call centre job.....take my word - the day you start earning well you will feel 110% better.....and moreover call center jobs are highly paying. once you complete your graduation you may try for an airhostess job.......forget about being a doctor....... trust me i've been through a carrier failure though not as big as yours but life is about moving on.......and don't let the suicide word come to your mind ever again....gud luck for life