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Question

first of all,when i was little i fantasized about men and about womens,the problem is that i fantasized men that i have seen,i don't want to make those fantasies true but this troubles me,although i want to be with a girl,i want to have emotional and sexual relationship with girls,and i don't want to be gay.but whats going on with me?does anyone know?note that i don't afraid the social rejection,i just don't like to be gay

Answer 1

If you only fantasized about them when you were younger it was probably just adolesent curiosity.

Answer 2

When we are little and our hormones are raging through our system and we are still unknowledgeable about some things in life, then we will fantasize randomly about all sorts of things in an effort to sort through them, the same as we do while dreaming. It doesn't mean that you really want to do anything you are fantasizing about, any more than it does when you dream something.

Your confusion is one of the dangers in having a little bit of knowledge concerning a subject before you actually have personally come upon any aspect of that thing in your life to deal with. You are told a little about homosexuality and then start to think certain things automatically mean that you are homosexual. That simply isn't true. This is what gets me about people who say they "knew" they were gay ever since they were little. They make it seem to kids that the natural random thoughts that go through their minds while growing up (like you've described) automatically indicate that the child is gay.

Answer 3

For the first 18 years of my life I had the same issues that you are having now. I would have given anything not to be gay. I was so disturbed by this that I had a mental and emotional breakdown and attempted suicide numerous times. By the grace of God, my friends helped me pull through that time in my life. I finally realized, understood, and came to terms with my life. Once I finally accepted the fact that I was gay, it was literally a huge weight lifted off my chest. I finally realized who I was, and that it was how I was made. And you know what, it's okay. I am finally at peace with myself, and my life is so much better now. Being gay is not the end of the world. It honestly can be a whole new life, a fresh start I hope and pray for you, that you can come to be at peace with your life. If you just need someone to talk to, please contact me. I will be more than glad to just listen, or give you advice, I help you in any way that I can.

May the Lord bless you and keep you,
May He make His face shine upon you, and be gracious to you,
May the Lord look upon you with favor, and give you peace.
Amen.

Answer 4

I get it. Your comfortable with the idea of men and women, every one is. ie (Mom and Dad.) But deep down in your mind you dream about sucking the sweet sweat off of some random hot guys dick. I get it. Thats a easy one. Just be a "Batman".

Whats a Batman you say?... Remeber when you watched tv shows like batman and superman, how this one guy could be two diffrent people. by day just a guy , but by night super hero. thats what you are. by day have a girl friend and at night up put on your super queer gear and go out there and save some one. trust me its the only way to live, its like the best of both worlds .

I know what your thinking, that its wrong, no my friend. you may not know this yet but most women are whores any way so it doesnt matter what you do on the side. trust me. I have sex with dudes all the time, My girlfriend a slut, who im i hurting.

Answer 5

Oh I know exactly where your coming from. I use to fanasize about guys and girls but I tried to push the guys out. I wanted so bad to be with girls not with guys. I became depressed and my parents wondered what was wrong, then finally I accepted that fact that I was gay and told my best friends. I felt like the burden was gone. I felt 100% better about myself.

Hope this helps

Answer 6

don't let it trouble you... it's a natural part of growing up and maturing.... girls go thru much the same thing... it comes from that time in life when the same sex is the most important friends you have.... there is sometimes one of your friends of the same sex that you like better than anyone and they can sometimes be in your romantic fantasies.... nothing wrong with that..... in fantasy, anything goes!... it's making you uncomfortable, so it's obviously not something you want... just work it thru with your own self and you'll have taken one more major step toward self awareness... and growth....

Answer 7

Ummmmmmmmm, newsflash if you fanatize about BOTH genders, you are bi-sexual and not gay so put your "fears" aside. Secondly what is so bad about being gay, I am a straight woman with several gay friends and I love gay men, they some of the best friends for a straight woman to have.

Answer 8

dude if you need to ask this just look at what you wrote

Question When these fantasies where happening where you jerking to them ?

you dont have to be gay to have gay sex thats what alot of men do the call that DL/on the low /closet cases

Answer 9

DON'T go to a pastor, like somebody above said. We all know what they're going to say, that it's a sin, so don't do it.

It's just the way you are, IF that IS the way you are.

If you don't want to be gay, then don't be. But if you simply are gay, you're only going to hurt yourself by denying it. But that's all I can say to your personal situation. Good luck.

Answer 10

You have bigger problems than your sexual identity. You cannot communicate in English in a coherent manner.