grandpa cheating on my grandma?

Question

i have never talked to anyone about this, but i know for a fact that my grandpa is cheating on my grandma. my sister and i both know this.

we always see him on the phone talking to this one lady. in fact, he talks to her in front of us, but in tagalog (filipino) because we can't understand it. but we hear him say "i love you" and talk about someone finding out about them.

and also, he uses either one of our computers to email, and i see him emailing to one particular person saying "i love you", "i miss you" etc. he calls her his "babygirl".

my parents and my grandma don't know about my grandpa cheating. i was thinking about telling someone, but im afraid that there might be some problems if i do... my grandparents stays at my house and drives us to school when my parents work, and if i tell, my grandparents might divorce, they won't be around my house much, etc.

what should i do, tell a family member about this, or just keep secret?

Answer 1

Ya i know the feeling my uncle was/is terrible for that, I just think of how hard it must be to be faithful to one person for so long. I didnt rat out my uncle because i know it would cause trouble in my family after so many years, personally i think it's something you should just stay out of.

Answer 2

Well I had a problem sorta similar with my parents...
First you have to be absolutely positive he is cheating and make sure its not just a good friend (kinda obvious)
Also I think your grandmother deserves to know. Wouldn't you wanna know if you were being cheated on.
Tell your grandma before anybody else I think.
Also ( if you really wanna find out) Get ahold of the e-mails.
Some people would say "No way thats an invasion of privacy" But I would say your grandma should know. It really isnt fair to her.
Your parents will find out eventualy (since you all live together) if you dont wanna just tell them.
It may get hard between your family and even though you probably love your grandpa why would it be OK for him to do that?
when the same sorta thing happened to me and my whole house was a war zone and my parents got divorced but it eventualy worked out now its fine.
But who knows if you will get the same outcome.

Answer 3

My grandparents have both passed on by now. However, when I was a teenager, I stayed with my grandparents for 6 months after I graduated from high school. During this time, I discovered that my Grandpa was cheating on my Grandma. I had such mixed feelings whether to tell or not. I was furious with my Grandpa. I never told my Grandma (or anyone), My Grandma later was overcome with cancer. Right before she died, I discovered that she had known all along that he was cheating and she knew about affairs he had had in the past too. She chose to stay and I respected her decision. My Grandpa told on himself in the end because he married his girlfriend within a month or so after my Grandma died. It hurt me to see my Grandma replaced so quickly and easily. His new wife insisted I call her "Grandma". No way! And that day, I told my Mom what she had already suspected herself. She made sure that lady never asked me to call her "Grandma" again. I understand your hurt and frustration. But take it from someone who has been in your shoes. You don't have to say anything. What goes around comes around. When my Grandpa was dying of cancer, guess who was out looking for her next husband?

Answer 4

Not knowing how old you are, this is a hard question. If you are still in high school I think you should tell your mother, and let her take it from there. Older than highschool I think I would first talk to grandpa and confront him with use of your computer to talk to a girlfriend, and let him know if he doesn't stop you will show grandma his emails'.
Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Could you have a heart to heart talk with your Lolo or better yet write him an e-mail/letter. Tell him your feelings and suspicions. Tell him how important your family is to you. I know he'll think you're being disrespectful, but so what? tell him that he's not setting a good example to you, his grandson. Ask him if he thinks it will be all worth losing his family's trust when everyone finds out about the affair? Will 'babygirl" be worth all the troubles and heartaches your family will have to endure? Ask him how he'll feel if his future grandson-in-law cheated on your sister?

Answer 6

I would just keep it a secret, its really none of my business...and besides they might find out sooner or later..or they might already know but not saying anything. If their happy why let this get in the way..i mean no offense but when people get old they die..so just let them be happy.your grandpa is probably having a fling..just some gal to keep him satisfied....

Answer 7

I guess it really depends on how close you are with your grandpa. You could try telling him how his actions are hurting your heart. Perhaps he may understand the wrong that he is doing to you and your family.

Answer 8

Get her e-mail address and send her an e-mail.Tell her she has to stop or you will tell.Don't tell her who you are,or you are not an adult or anything.Just ask her to leave him alone.He is married.Then tell your mom and leave it up to her.Let her decide what to do with the information.